I was what you might call a “late-bloomer” to the world of blogging. I read them, I just never thought to start my own until earlier this year. Once I decided to do it, I was filled with all of these ideas that I wanted to try in order to bring out my “creative side.” They included everything from weight loss products to makeup to doggy clothing (don’t ask). After a few false starts (and some great advice from family and friends) I decided to just stick with telling my story, hence this blog. It’s fun for me and I enjoy putting things on paper, so to speak.
Throughout the weeks of trying new ideas, my husband didn’t say a word. He probably realized pretty quickly that no one would read a post about Fiber bars and that most people wouldn’t care about which lipgloss smells the best. But he listened. He listened and he nodded and he agreed that absolutely, my idea was the best idea in the creation of ideas! He didn’t say anything when I brought home books about starting your own website and do-it-yourself HTML. He certainly didn’t laugh at me when I lost interest in the weight loss products and the doggy clothing (I still think the makeup site could be usefull). In fact, he didn’t say a thing.
In my mind, there’s a word for this. It’s called support. Now that I have learned a thing or two about blogging and have settled into doing sites that interest me, I realize just how important the CPA’s support was during the whole process. Had he questioned my ideas (or sanity) I may very well have given up. Had he told me that my plans were silly and a waste of time, not to mention money, my creativity may have been stifled. Instead, I find myself with a new hobby and an outlet for my creativity. Yes, I probably could have done it without him, but it would have been a whole lot harder and not nearly as much fun.
I think that marriage is made up of dozens of everyday experiences like these that require us to give each other support. For example, when my husband wants to practice a speech he is giving, he needs me to listen and give feedback. When he tells a silly joke and delivers the punchline, he waits for my laugh. And when he feels anxious about his family, he uses my shoulder to lean on.
These are only a few examples, I could probably list hundreds more just from this past week. What I’m trying to say is that it’s so important to support each other. A marriage can’t be successful if one person does all of the work in this area. Since I’m kind-of new at the whole marriage thing, it helps me to think how I would want to be supported and then I try to treat my husband that way in return. Not that I’m perfect at it, of course, sometimes our marriage is a little lopsided in that regard. Thankfully though, my husband is patient and understanding with me.
Not to mention supportive!
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