Yes, the time is here. After much discussion, debate, and deciding, it is time to get going. While my husband is jumping cartwheels while simultaneously trying to conserve energy (because apparently trying to get pregnant takes a lot of energy, wink wink) I’m trying to count the days in my cycle. Even after all of the stuff I’ve read, I’m still not sure when’s the best time to actually try.
I have the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, which is a good book and very informative. The problem is, I really want a girl. And while there is no guaranteed way to get a girl, I feel that I want to at least try. I have some friends who swear by the Shettles method and it must work because they had one girl and one boy (which, if I could choose, is the combination I would like to have).
Of course this brings up the question about whether we really want to try for a particular gender or not. My husband once asked me if I believe that the baby we receive is meant to be ours no matter what sex it is. I said yes, of course. To which he responded, “so why do you want to try to have a particular gender? Why not go on faith and see what we have?” That’s a good question, sweetie.
I think it has something to do with the fact that he already has four boys of his own. And I love boys, don’t get me wrong, but I also love the time that I spend with my mother and my sister and I want that with my own daughter. There’s a special bond there between mother and daughter, at least I think there can be. Granted, there can probably be a special bond between mother and son, I just don’t know about that from personal experience. I realize these are generalizations and that it completely depends on the child and his/her personality, but it’s what I’ve seen firsthand.
So I think what I’m going to do is try to plan specifically for a girl for the first couple of months. If nothing happens, then I’ll just have at it. But then there’s a part of me that is so excited to have a baby that I wonder if I’ll be patient enough to wait. I may just throw caution to the wind anyway and see where it takes me.
What about you? Girls or boys? Does it matter? Have you tried the Shettles method and did it work?