Jan 14 2009

Getting Pregnant: The Time Is Nigh At Hand

Posted in All Posts, Pre-Pregnancy, Pregnancy Life

Yes, the time is here.  After much discussion, debate, and deciding, it is time to get going.  While my husband is jumping cartwheels while simultaneously trying to conserve energy (because apparently trying to get pregnant takes a lot of energy, wink wink) I’m trying to count the days in my cycle.  Even after all of the stuff I’ve read, I’m still not sure when’s the best time to actually try.

I have the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, which is a good book and very informative.  The problem is, I really want a girl.  And while there is no guaranteed way to get a girl, I feel that I want to at least try.  I have some friends who swear by the Shettles method and it must work because they had one girl and one boy (which, if I could choose, is the combination I would like to have).

Of course this brings up the question about whether we really want to try for a particular gender or not.  My husband once asked me if I believe that the baby we receive is meant to be ours no matter what sex it is.  I said yes, of course.  To which he responded, “so why do you want to try to have a particular gender?  Why not go on faith and see what we have?”  That’s a good question, sweetie.

I think it has something to do with the fact that he already has four boys of his own.  And I love boys, don’t get me wrong, but I also love the time that I spend with my mother and my sister and I want that with my own daughter.  There’s a special bond there between mother and daughter, at least I think there can be.  Granted, there can probably be a special bond between mother and son, I just don’t know about that from personal experience.  I realize these are generalizations and that it completely depends on the child and his/her personality, but it’s what I’ve seen firsthand. 

So I think what I’m going to do is try to plan specifically for a girl for the first couple of months.  If nothing happens, then I’ll just have at it.  But then there’s a part of me that is so excited to have a baby that I wonder if I’ll be patient enough to wait.  I may just throw caution to the wind anyway and see where it takes me. 

What about you?  Girls or boys?  Does it matter?  Have you tried the Shettles method and did it work?

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Kristy - January 14, 2009 - 6:43 am

We have girls–two beautiful girls. We didn’t try any methods, but looking back on the date thing from the Shettles method, we did have the right timing for girls. Don’t stress though–it just messes with your cycles and you’ll never know which end is up. Our first gal took four years and we were half way through the adoption process before she was conceived; the other, was one try. God’s timing is good and His plan is perfect. I would have probably chosen a boy first, if we could some how pick, but I am so glad I couldn’t Kate is the greatest…and part of her is her gender. Then we would have probably chosen to have a boy next, but of course we were blessed with another awe inspiring pink bundle. Thank God we can’t choose and He knows what’s best for us and our families!!!

Hokie Deb - January 14, 2009 - 6:46 am

–>I don’t know anything about the shettles method. My husband brought me flowers on valentine’s day and yadda, yadda, yadda, ten months later my son was born.

Here is a fun thing to reference though – the chinese birth calendar. http://www.webwomb.com/chinesechart.htm

(It was right for me and some of my friends btw.)
http://thaxtonfam.blogspot.com

The Wife of Odie - January 14, 2009 - 6:57 am

I say just go for it! If you’re meant to have a girl you will. If not, I’ll be shopping for little boys at Baby Gap. Because my niece and nephew will be outfitted by Gap. I love their baby section…

Sabrina - January 14, 2009 - 8:58 am

I have both, son was first, daughter was second. We had no method, (wasn’t even aware there was methods) :-) we just decided we were ready to start trying, the next month I was pregnant and that happened the second time too. Guess I’m lucky that I don’t have a house full! LOL Both are wonderful.

I got so frustrated when I was pregnant the second time with people saying I know you must really want a girl this time. It really didn’t matter to me, in fact since I felt like I was pretty good at parenting a boy, I had thought that might be easier. :-)

She is a real joy. We call her our Tigger in a house full of Eeyores. LOL She brightens every day at our house and you are right to a degree about the relationship bond between mom and daughter. BUT she’s not a teenager yet, that may all change then. For now, I’m just enjoying every minute before that happens.

Best of luck and thanks for sharing this journey with us!

Mindee - January 14, 2009 - 9:29 am

When I tried for a boy, I got a girl. When I tried for another girl, I got a boy.

Turns out (no surprise) that God’s plan was perfect for us. I don’t know why I have to re-learn that over and over and over again!

The third time we didn’t try for anything because we didn’t care and we got a girl. I can’t imagine any other combination but my oldest can – she keeps trying to tell me that we should have stopped at one. ;)

Margie - January 14, 2009 - 9:34 am

My 2 cents is just go for it. Like the CPA says, have faith that God will give you which ever gender is best for you. Good Luck and have fun. wink wink. HaHa HeeHee.

Terra - January 14, 2009 - 9:36 am

Well, I kind of have the same mind set as your husband… there is already a baby that God has picked out for us. I have had many people offer to tell me how to have a certain sex of baby…. and I have declined. I say throw caution to the wind and go for it! It’s more fun that way.
And I happened to have an incredible relationship with my mom while she was alive, and I have an incredible one with my sister (s). However, with that said, I have a little boy that is 15 months old and quite the mommy boy. I think you you will have that special bond with your child no matter what it is.
HAVE FUN! :) It’s so exciting!

admin - January 14, 2009 - 9:59 am

Wow – you guys are very persuasive! I have to say, you’ve made some good points. I think it’s the “control” in me that fights what I know is probably true – that it’s out of my hands. I love hearing about your experiences too – Terra and Sabrina, it sounds like you have some special littles ones. And Deb and Kristy – you’re right, I should probably not stress about it (I’ll have to check out that calendar too). Mindee – that’s pretty funny about your oldest, so cute!

Kristina - January 14, 2009 - 10:05 am

I didn’t realize there were methods for either gender! I always wanted boys. Still do.

Joanna - January 14, 2009 - 11:52 am

I never knew there were methods … I always, always, always wanted boys. When the ultrasound tech said “It’s a girl” the room was silent. Then, I called my grandpa. I told him I was a little disappointed it wasn’t a boy. And instead of reminding me that we’d been trying for two years to get pregnant and I should be thankful for either one, he said (with a huge smile that I could HEAR), “I’m not. There’s just something about little girls.”

And he was right.

And if I had been running things instead of God, I would have never found that out. And it makes a lump come up in my throat just thinking about it.

Which is to say … your baby will be special and a precious gift from God. Things you already know. So, you can TRY for that girl, but you’ll have a special bond with any baby because it’s yours.

erin - January 14, 2009 - 12:24 pm

We did not try for a specific gender though I had heard vaguely about timing and positions to try to get one or the other. I was just timing my cycles (I used the ovulation predictor at http://www.pregnancyguideonline.com but I don’t know how accurate it was) and just made sure we were “active” for the entire week or so around then. Funny too, I also stood on my head (literally!) afterwards to make sure everything would “take” and also to make DH laugh and now he says that is why we are pregnant.

I thought the Chinese calendar was interesting, since it says we should have a girl, which is exactly what we ARE having according to the u/s. I would love a boy also but I am very happy about my daughter. I felt the same as you do, I want that special relationship like I have with my mom. DH assured me that boys have a special relationship with their moms too, like him and his mom, but to me it wasn’t the same. I thought of that old saying that sons belong to their mothers for a little while but daughters belong to their mothers forever. Needless to say I would love boys also, I’m just thrilled right now over my girl.

admin - January 14, 2009 - 1:31 pm

Hey Kristina and Joanna – that’s funny that you both wanted boys. Amazing how everyone’s different. And Joanna – I like what you said about how there will be a special bond no matter what. So sweetly stated, thank you.
Erin – I’m definitely going to have to look at that ovulation predictor. That’s funny that you stood on your head! :)

MommyAmy - January 14, 2009 - 2:23 pm

I can’t give enough recommendations about that book TCOYF!!! It completely changed my life. I was diagnosed w/ a blood clotting disorder and immedietly had to stop taking hormonal birth control. We were able to avoid pregnancy for 2 years using FAM before we were ready for kids.

And I’m SO glad I charted for that long before we decided to try for a baby, because it made it very clear very early on that it would be hard for us to conceive. So I was able to get in to see my Dr. early on in the process and mentally prepare myself for TTC the hard way.

Anyway…

Before we became parents we REALLY wanted boys. But after a year of TTC we realized that we’d be thrilled with any baby, regardless of gender. Once we found out we were expecting twins we looked back at my chart and based on shettles we should have had 2 boys! Unless my hubby has super sperm we don’t know about… but I highly doubt that! lol In any case, we have 2 girls. We were disappointed at first, but we LOVE our girls!!! And I honestly don’t even know what I was thinking when I wished for boys!

Jana - January 14, 2009 - 8:06 pm

My husband came to the marriage with a girl, so I wanted a boy at first. A friend told me that if you want a boy, your husband needs to be relaxed. If he’s uptight, you’ll get a girl. We got pregnant in the midst of a custody battle, and we had a girl. Maybe you could get the CPA a little stressed. A couple of years later we had a boy. I can’t remember if he was stressed or not then. I’m going to say no :)

Catherine Mcp - January 14, 2009 - 8:59 pm

Hi, Just wanted to let you know I have been reading your blog off and on for awhile when I see you on Pioneer..now I added you to my Faves!
Sooo, I am to old for kids, BUT, my 20+ “kids” were…..wanted girls and got them both times. Plain old wishful thinking on a star!(Yea right). Really though, you will get a child that you want so bad, and it doesnt matter the gender, you will be blown away because they will be from you and your husband, and believe me you will be awestruck!

Angie - January 14, 2009 - 9:58 pm

Hi,
I ran across your blog thru PW’s…anyways, many blessings on your endeavor to start a family. I personally am a little shy about having girls (I’m more of a tom boy myself) and am loving being a boy mom!

About getting pregnant, there’s a book that I read that helped us not only avoid getting pregnant naturally, but also get pregnant when we wanted. It took us about 3 tries/months to conceive each of our 2 planned pregnancies. Anyhow, this book helps you read your body, and it’s helped me recognize hormone swings, cysts, etc. It’s called “Your Fertility Signals” by Merryl Weinstein. Also, I wrote a review of it here: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1280573.Your_Fertility_Signals_Using_Them_to_Achieve_or_Avoid_Pregnancy_Naturally

Hope things go well!! Happy Baby Making ;)

admin - January 15, 2009 - 5:34 am

Mommy Amy – what an amazing story! I know what you mean about the birth control – I stay away from it even though I don’t have a disorder, just the risks frighten me. Congrats on your twins!

Jana – wow, that’s the first I’ve heard of that. Hmmm.. that one would be easy to try! :)

Catherine – Hi – nice to see you! I appreciate what your comment, I’m sure I will be awestruck by whether it’s a boy or girl.

Angie – thanks for the tip, I’m always up for new books. I’l have to go check it out!

Carrie - January 15, 2009 - 8:10 am

and don’t forget… if you do have boy(s), you will one day get bonus daughters! I have sons, and it’s been fun bonding with their sig. others – their relationships with their moms seem to have some underlying tension, and there’s none of that with me.

the domestic fringe - January 15, 2009 - 8:19 am

I have one boy and one girl in that order. I tried NOT to get pregnant…obviously I wasn’t doing a very good job. I’ve heard about the methods of choosing gender and the whole idea sounds pretty cool. I’ll be interested to see if it works for you. In any case, have fun trying!
-FringeGirl

Melanie - January 15, 2009 - 10:13 am

We just found out yesterday that we’re having a girl. We wanted a girl though, so we were pleased! We already have one sweet girl, and thought she might like a playmate just like her! But I think that whichever is fine. Boys, girls, whatever, they will all call you mommy and love your guts.

Jenna @ Newlyweds - January 15, 2009 - 11:16 am

I have heard of the shettles method but did not personally use it. We have been using the Fertility Awareness Method for about 3 years now. If I look at my chart from when I conceived the boys (twins) then yes it would fall correctly with what the shettles method says.

admin - January 15, 2009 - 1:02 pm

Carrie – good point, can’t forget about the daughters-in-law!

Domestic Fringe – I’ll definitely be keeping you posted!

Melanie – congrats to you, that’s awesome! Two little girls. :)

Jenna – I still have to put my chart together. I’ve been tracking it, just haven’t put it in an actual chart yet.

erin - January 15, 2009 - 3:52 pm

What timing – I thought of you this morning when I heard a story on NPR about a new study from Britain saying that what mom eats can influence the gender of her baby. Apparently moms who eat more breakfast cereal, salty foods, and potassium in the months before they get pregnant are slightly more likely to have boys. Also apparently it is not foolproof, because I eat lots of salty food and breakfast cereal and we’re having a girl. :)

Diane - January 15, 2009 - 5:55 pm

Ha, I was just about to leave the exact same comment that Erin left. You should still be able to find the full story on NPR’s website.

Congrats and have fun ;)

prufock - January 16, 2009 - 8:48 am

I think your husband’s attitude that you’re “meant” to have a child of a particular gender is too fatalistic and ultimately self-defeating. There is nothing wrong with hoping for one or the other, as long as you understand that despite all your efforts, you’re only skewing the probability slightly. As long as you’re mentally prepared for either sex, go ahead and try for that girl. Just don’t be disappointed or unhappy if you have a boy.

One thing I remember from sexual behaviour class – male sperm are a lot more fragile than female. Have your husband take a hot bath before sex and it kills off many of the Y sperm, increasing your chances of getting a girl.

Good luck.

Jen - January 16, 2009 - 9:49 am

We have five kids and it’s questionable on whether the shettles method works. Number five was a surprise. According to shettles it should have been a girl, but nope, a wonderful boy! You’ve got a 50/50 shot for either. :-) Human nature makes us want to control everything we can, but God’s way truly is better. I was really scared to be mom to a son (my first) but he’s my Scrabble buddy now. My three daughters – I love ‘em, but they wear me out! Boys are MUCH easier to parent – so much less hormonal! And we haven’t even hit puberty yet!

I agree with the others who mentioned that whatever you get, you will be thrilled with. It’s YOUR BABY! Nothing can replace that.

admin - January 16, 2009 - 11:59 am

Erin – hmm… does that mean i have to cut out my potato chips? :)

Prufock – I like what you said about being prepared for either sex, I think that’s an important factor and one I’m working on. Good tip on the hot bath thing – probably couldn’t hurt to try!

Jen – I’ve heard that too, that boys are easier to parent. Maybe I should hope for a boy afterall?

LoveLetterstotheMiddleEast - January 16, 2009 - 7:41 pm

If I ever decided to have kids, I would want a girl and then a boy I think. And I’d probably stop at 2.
My best friend had a baby and we were all hoping for a girl. Can’t imagine what we would have done if it would have turned out to be a boy. But we’ll take them and be happy with them either way!

Eryn - January 19, 2009 - 8:26 am

You don’t know me, so I’ll try to keep this brief:
My best advice on this subject is simple.
Don’t try too hard!
My husband and I tried everything in the book for 5 months. Then we decided it was ridiculous; we stopped “trying” and just put it in God’s hands. The next month I was pregnant!
As far as gender goes, I can’t help you with the girl thing (I have a boy), but I do know that it does not matter. Either way, it is your baby.

admin - January 19, 2009 - 8:44 am

Hi Love Letters – we’ll probably stop at two too. Well, if we can get started with the one of course. :)

Eryn – that’s so cool – I love hearing stories like that! And you’re right, no matter what it is, it will be our baby.

Dana - January 20, 2009 - 2:36 pm

Funny you would mention that book in your blog – I just ordered it after hearing how great it is to read. We are not planning for kids this year, but I am trying to read up as much as I can about pregency and kids. I am very excited to hear you guys are going to start trying so I can live through you all. Congrats and good luck!

Elizabeth - January 21, 2009 - 3:28 am

This is a topic very near and dear to my heart. And I have a lot to say about it!

I had initially REALLY wanted girls (for silly reasons like wanting something different than what my sister had–she had a boy–to less-silly reasons like wanting that strong mother-daughter bond when the kid grew up), and tried Shettles. I had a boy.

For baby #2, I didn’t want to leave anything up to chance. We tried Shettles, PLUS that special-position method, the diet method mentioned by the commenter above (it has to do with altering your body’s ph, which I did), AND the Chinese Calendar timing method. Oh, and my husband was stressed, if that matters. Before the ultrasound could give me results, the ring-on-a-string test, the pee-in-drano test (NOT recommended!) and hypnosis all said, ‘girl’. You guessed it–I had my second son! (My sister had three using Shettles with two–trying for girls–and a friend of mine had 3 boys using various methods before having a girl for #4.)

HOWEVER, I am SO glad I have my two sons, and I’m glad they’re boys! While they’re only 8 and 5, the bond we have is amazing (and you wouldn’t believe how deep and sensitive my older son is!), and we have a lot of fun, too. (My sister and other friend have also come to really enjoy being moms of boys.) I had really wanted ‘one of each’, but I love how well my sons get along because they have shared interests, even though their personalities are very different. I know I’m missing some things my not having daughters, but even if I had the one of each I wanted, with a girl first, there are things I’d be missing out on by not having what I have.

So, the point of my comment is that, while it bothered me to realize that I had absolutely no control in the gender of children that would be part of my life forever (it’s pretty heavy to realize that you don’t have a choice in such a huge, life-changing thing!), I think in the end, what I got was exactly what I would have wanted anyway. (Like a previous commenter said, I will have relationships with the girls they marry, and I have some awesome girls in my life now–my sons’ friends and my friends’ daughters. I’m getting enough ‘girl.)

i can see why you might be hoping for a girl–four step-sons is a lot of boy!–but every boy is so different and unique, that I’m sure you’ll be very happy with whatever you get. Promise. (And don’t waste your time and hopes on Shettles! I recommend that you just have fun ; )

Lynda aka Miss Prudence Knits - January 22, 2009 - 12:36 pm

I have 2 boys and a girl. I confess,we did try for a girl using certain “tricks” (for the sake of decorum I’ll leave at that, after all we are only just meeting). I love both sexes! So different. But I do suggest a few things to get used before conception. Practice : walking on roof tacks (preparation for stray lego etc that WILL be magnatised to parental feet), read a book and STOP, read and STOP, read and STOP (this is how reading will be from now on. Drink COLD tea / coffee. Hot beverages are for the unwanted, un-needed, un-beckoned for childless. BUT there are a gazillion wonders that nothing can prepare you for. And remember, if you can’t see yourself with just boys, don’t be too audible the universe has ways to throw you the challenge! Best of luck.

Jen - January 22, 2009 - 2:47 pm

I have a 20-month old daughter. I met my husband when I was 33, married him a month shy of my 35th bday, and delivered our beautiful daughter a couple months after I turned 37. We kind of planned to have an only child due to our ages, finances, etc. I am an only child, and it has pros and cons. I am close to my parents, for sure. Anyway, we didn’t do anything to try to influence the gender. We talked a lot before we started trying about what we would do if we had fertility problems (adopt), and then we just stopped trying to prevent conception. We just left it to chance. Month 2, I was pregnant, without any charting or anything. After I was pregnant, I realized I really hoped our baby would be a girl. I told DH that if it was a boy, we might have to have a second child. I think my crazy MIL instilled the idea that “a daughter is a daughter for life, but a son is a son until he takes a wife” when I asked why she seemed to feel like I was taking her son from her! DH was relieved to hear we were having a girl, and asked, “so we are only having one, right?” My daughter is beautiful, smart, sassy, sweet, independent, and strong-willed – everything I could hope for and more. Of course I want a second child anyway! More for her, than anything. Still trying to talk DH into it. But I don’t have any preference about the gender. I had hopes, but I couldn’t control it, and I wasn’t going to stress myself out trying to. There is plenty of time for stressing out over trying to control things as they grow up! Good luck to you!

Stephanie - January 23, 2009 - 1:39 pm

Wow, this is the first I’ve heard of Shettles! I’m 22 weeks pregnant right now, and now I’m trying to back track and see what the baby might be.

Good luck with you two!

admin - January 24, 2009 - 5:26 am

Hey Dana – let me know what you think of the book! I’ll be interested to get another opinion.

Elizabeth – that makes me feel better to hear. I know it’s not a guaranteed method so maybe I shouldn’t put all my hopes on it working, huh? :)

Lynda – ha!! Isn’t that the truth!! People keep telling me to enjoy things now because everything will change after little ones arrive.

Jen – good luck with DH – I hope you’re able to have another little one. And that’s a funny expression from your MIL, I hadn’t heard that one before!

Stephanie – so exciting – congrats to you! Be sure to let us know what you’re having!

Scott at Realepicurean - January 24, 2009 - 12:18 pm

My wife is 5 months pregnant now. I caught her!

Daniel Craig - January 24, 2009 - 2:00 pm

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Ambulance Mommy - January 26, 2009 - 9:00 am

I think there’s a section in TCOYF that talks about TTC boys versus girls. The girl sperm is stronger, and survives longer, and the boy sperm is weaker, and swims slower. I think. I’m pretty sure, anyway :)

When we found out we were pregnant, we had dreams of having a little girl. now that our boy is here, while he keeps us on our toes, we love having him! I can understand the desire to have a girl, especially if the CPA already has boys, but I think you’ll love having either!!! :)

Sarah - January 26, 2009 - 12:28 pm

Hi! Nice site! I stumbled upon it when I saw a comment you posted on 101 Cookbooks. I got here, saw your ‘thank you’ to the Unclutterer (another site I love), and stayed to read.

My hubby and I decided to try because lots of people we knew were having fertility troubles. I got pregnant that first month – boy and girl twins!

We have no family history of twins, and we’ve never been able to pinpoint any of the contributing factors listed in books.

I will tell you, though, that the bond between mother and daughter is special, but so is the bond between mother and son. You and your child will have a beautiful relationship, no matter the gender.

Good luck (and have lots of fun trying)!

Sarah - January 26, 2009 - 12:32 pm

Oh – and gender is determined by the father. Odds are, it’s time for him to make a girl!

Amy - January 26, 2009 - 3:24 pm

I am expecting my second son in 6 weeks. We tried this as well as the Chinese birth calendar, all lined up beautifully to welcome our little girl…SURPRISE at the ultrasound, we found out we are expecting another little boy. Boys are really great. They are a lot of fun, and most of my friends who have both say they are WAY easier!!

admin - January 26, 2009 - 3:31 pm

Hi Scott – do you know if you’re having a boy or girl? Congrats, btw!

Hi Daniel -nice to see you!

Ambulance Mommy – You’re probably right – Ihaven’t read all of it yet (how’s that for passive agressive behavior)? We’re just kind-of trying right now to see what happens. Fingers crossed…

Sarah – nice to see you, thanks for saying hi. You’re probably right, I’m sure I’ll be happy with a boy or a girl, but it’s nice to hear that from others!

Amy – congrats to you. Six weeks, huh? Right around the corner! And a boy! I bet it was quite a surprise when you were expecting a girl. I’ve heard that they’re easier too. Good luck to you!

inadvertentfarmer - January 28, 2009 - 1:02 pm

4 boys…one sweet girl. Love ‘em all and think if you gonna have a whole passel of them then you should definately have boys, less drama! Then again a little girl is just so much company! I do have a friend that had 3 boys and purposely tried for a girl…twin boys was the result, so be careful, lol!

Good luck and have fun, it will be your last carefree lovin’ for a loooong time, lol!

Anya - February 1, 2009 - 9:47 am

Hi, Tab! Very interesting info you have here! I just have a question (not that we are trying … but anyway) does the Shettles method work if somebody wanted to have twins=)
Good luck on your quest

The Wife of Odie - February 4, 2009 - 1:17 pm

Are you pregnant yet? Just curious :)

M to T&T&A&D - February 5, 2009 - 11:32 am

Wow, this is such an exciting time for you and the CPA and we are so excited as grandparents-to-be!!! I can only share with you my heartfelt feelings of children in a family. I LOVE my sisters and am close to them. Before my Mother’s death, I was very close to her. I know that my only brother was close to her as well.

Of my four living children, I’m close to all of them. I know this is a bit unusual but oh what a wonderful blessing to me!!! Granted, each is very unique and different but loving and close none the same. I do have to say though, that my girls and I have a particularly close woman-to-woman/Mother-daughter relationship that is beyond words of description. I love being with them, talking to them on the phone, laughing with them, playing/shopping with them, think of them always, have them in my heart every moment, you get the idea.

My boys and I have a really close relationship as well, but both are married and their wives come first as it should be. That doesn’t take away from our close relationship but adds to it and enriches both our personal relationship and I know it adds to their relationahip with their wives because they are such caring and loving Fathers and husbands. I truly believe they are this way in part due to the great relationship we have as Mother/son.

Now back to daughters: nothing beats having girls. From the moment they’re placed in your arms and you get to buy the first dress and pink ribbons for them….you’re heart is tied to them. Heavenly Father plants in each of our hearts the recognition of understanding one another so well.

What you and the CPA try in order to have a girl first is totally up to the two of you. I KNOW Heavenly Father has both of you in mind and will send just the special child to you that you’re dreaming of – whether it’s a boy or a girl! You’ll love this child and treasure every moment you will have together.

admin - February 5, 2009 - 3:00 pm

Inadvertent farmer – what a funny comment – I love it!!

Anya – hmm… that’s a good question and one that I don’t know the answer to. Why, are you guys trying? :)

WofO – nope, not yet. Silly sis – don’t you know I’d call you right away?

M of TTDA – so sweet… you always say just the perfect thing!

Erin G - April 3, 2009 - 10:27 am

Hello there! I stumbled upon your blog via PW’s blog…

I think that if you really want a child, you just accept what the Lord gives you. Coming from someone who has tried for nearly 10 years to achieve ANY pregnancy, you should be grateful that the Lord gives you any children at all :) Personally I’d be happy for whatever I’m given.

Becoming pregnant is a miracle in itself. The average healthy couple (meaning both parents repro systems work properly) has a 20% chance each month at becoming pregnant.

We’ve tried everything in “the book”, had countless medical tests, spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on treatments, and ultimately given it over to the Lord…

If you’re not pregnant in 6 months get both of you tested… start with your CPA… he’s the cheapest and easiest test.

And don’t worry about gender… pray for the healthy spirit intended for your family.

Inky Smiles!

Erin G´s last blog post..Thoughts for Thursday: Creativity

Dirk - August 2, 2009 - 7:51 pm

Your post was very interesting when I found it over google on Monday by my search for taking charge of your fertility. I have your blog now in my bookmarks and I visit your blog again, soon. Take care.

samearl - November 23, 2009 - 4:08 pm

Using a bit of humor. Try “Please look, but don’t touch.” Or turn the tables and say, “You can touch my tummy if I can touch yours.”

trying to get pregnant - November 28, 2009 - 3:51 pm

oMG!! Great post!!

Trying To Conceive A Baby - April 14, 2010 - 5:17 pm

Been looking for this type of information. Everything I’ve read anywhere else hasn’t covered it very well, but your post did. Thanks…

Tabs - August 26, 2010 - 11:27 am

Hi Tabitha. I just found your blog (because you posted on Confessions of a Young Married Couple and you have such a wonderful name, wink) and I am LOVING IT!! My husband and I are (without telling anyone in the family yet) starting the trying process like you did back when you wrote this particular post. I just want to say thank you (already) for sharing all your lifes experiences as they happen.

Just wanted to say hi and let you know that you have a new follower. :) God bless you and your sweet family!

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