Feb 05 2009

Trying to Conceive – First Month

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As you are all aware (probably more than you want to be) the CPA and I are trying to get pregnant.  No, not this minute, I just mean in general.  You know, we’re, ummm… flying without a parachute.  Yeah, that’s it.

It’s been a strange thing, this flying without a parachute.  Each time it’s happened I would think, “maybe this is it, maybe we’re pregnant.”  And then I would spend the next 24 hours or so trying to discern what every movement or motion in my belly was.  “Was that it?  Have I got a zygote in there, or is it just my imagination?”  I would begin to wonder how I would feel to know that a baby was in fact growing inside me right at that very moment!  I couldn’t tell – was I nervous, anxious, afraid?  A little of all the above I think. 

By the end of our first official week, I was somewhat convinced that it hadn’t happened this time.  But I picked up a box of pregnancy tests anyway, just in case.  I had mentioned to the CPA that I wanted to get some and he responded, “Why?”  To which I asked, ”How else will we know that we are pregnant?”  “Uh… wait until your next period,” was his reply.

Me wait?  I don’t think so.  Not when there is a 99%-effective testing method that is all mine for just $8.99.  So I picked one up.  And then I waited.  I decided that I wasn’t pregnant after all because I didn’t feel pregnant.  There was none of the signs I had read about – tender breasts, moodiness, fatigue, nausea.  So I was good to go until the next month.

But wait, what is that?  Am I feeling a little tenderness?  Could it be… (and no, I know what you’re thinking, but I wasn’t imagining it.)  So, I sneaked upstairs to the bathroom on Sunday morning and I pulled out the box I had hidden deep in the cabinet under the sink.  I broke open the package and removed the lid.  Since the instructions were a little complicated or at the very least possibly messy, I decided to use a cup instead of just holding the apparatus. 

Then I waited.  The first minute dragged by.  The instructions clearly said not to look until two minutes were up, but I peeked.  Then I thought I’d better give it the full two minutes just to be sure.  As I waited, thoughts swirled around and around in my mind – this could be it!  This could be the moment that I realize our life is about to change forever!!  (In hindsight, I probably should have had the CPA there with me.) 

I could barely breathe from all the rattling going on in my head.  Then, at two minutes exactly, I looked down.

Nope, not pregnant. Even though I think I knew deep down what the answer was, I was still a bit disappointed.  Or was it relieved?  I honestly don’t know.  

So why did I even take the test?  Because that’s part of the fun in trying to get pregnant, isn’t it?  It’s like opening up a gift and hoping it’s the one you asked for.  I’m sure it won’t be like this all the time, but for me it was.  It was exciting, the beginning of this new adventure in our lives, and I couldn’t put off knowing any longer.

Now we’re back to trying. Not that I’m complaining of course.  And I’m already looking forward to the next time. The next test, silly, that’s what I meant.  The next test!

(sheesh… you guys!)

For those of you who have tried, how long did it take you to conceive?

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Joanna - February 5, 2009 - 5:32 am

Huge suggestion … get the one that has a digital “Pregnant”/”Not Pregnant” readout next time. We spent twenty minutes arguing whether the second line was, in fact, a line or was it just a shadow. Finally, I got in my car, drove to the store for the “fool-proof” version and showed my husband I WAS RIGHT! :)

And I always used the cup too. Very messy the other way!

Good luck!

Ernestina - February 5, 2009 - 6:57 am

Hi Tabitha. Just wanted to let you know that my daughter (26) was trying for the longest time to get pregnant and couldn’t. I think she was just monitoring too much. She was doing the exact same thing you’re doing with the testing. She was also trying to stay super healthy. One night she went out for drinks with her friends and the next day she was pregnant. It took her exactly one year to conceive.

Not condoning drinking but what I’m saying is that the moment she quit expecting something she got pregnant! She has a beautiful 6 month old baby girl. It will happen for you. Good Luck!

the weakonomist - February 5, 2009 - 7:07 am

You know, this topic really isn’t my thing, as The Sheconomist and I are still a few years from active baby-making attempts; but I find your writing style very entertaining. In my mind I mentally crossed my fingers for you as I got to the end of the post.

While Ernestina doesn’t condone drinking, I will. :)

Congrats on being a grandmother Ernestina!

admin - February 5, 2009 - 7:12 am

Joanna – I know, I saw those and I wanted to get them but they were so expensive!! I will probably end up getting one at some point, especially if we really think we’re pregnant – I’m going to want to see it in writing!

Ernesta – what a great story! I’m so happy for you and your daughter. And there probably is something to just taking it easy…

Weakonomist – ha!! Why thank you, I appreciate that. Well, when you guys are actively trying, I fully expect to read about it on The Weakonomist. (Okay, that might surprise your readers a bit, but still, it would be fun.) :)

Carol - February 5, 2009 - 7:13 am

Those symptoms usually don’t appear until a good while after conception. I never had a sick day! The pregnancies were perfect, the deliveries is where it went downhill! Relax! The technology of finding out so soon just amazes me. Way back when, you had to wait until you missed 1 period and were at least two weeks late before a doctor would even do a pregnancy test, then your first appointment was in your second month. Things have come so far. But I will tell you this, sometimes you just “know”. You know we’re rooting for you!!!

Kristy - February 5, 2009 - 7:14 am

Just don’t take them too early or the negative might just mean not enough hcg “yet.” Now that one will drive you nuts if you’re late one month. :) You’re welcome.

Jana - February 5, 2009 - 7:17 am

There is something so fun about peeing on a stick. When I get a new box, I always pee on one, just to make sure they work. That’s why I usually get mine at Costco.

My husband does not see a need for the home pregnancy test. He also doesn’t believe in its accuracy. His motto is “I’ll believe it when I see it on a sonogram.” Nevermind the moodiness, fatigue, breast tenderness, etc.

The Wife of Odie - February 5, 2009 - 7:39 am

Haha, I love this post. I can’t wait for the day when it actually happens!

the domestic fringe - February 5, 2009 - 7:48 am

A secret…many dollar stores sell pregnancy tests – they work. You can now afford to take MANY, MANY tests.

-FringeGirl

LaDonna F - February 5, 2009 - 7:59 am

I was really hoping that at the end of your story there would have been a plus sign. Fingers crossed that next time around brings you good news.

When my husband and I first started trying I was off the pill for less than a month when I found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately that ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks. A month later I was pregnant again. Because we were trying I had been keeping track of my periods. Since pregnancy tests aren’t cheap I did wait to test right about the time I knew I was expecting my period. That didn’t stop me from trying a few different brands even when they were all giving me the positive sign. There’s just something about seeing it on the stick that makes it all seem so real. Our son was born Dec. 4th, 3 weeks early (that’s another story, for another time). One year later I found out I was pregnant again. This time around was a complete surprise. With my son’s first birthday and Christmas I was so busy I never noticed I missed my period. Then David and Elijah both came down with a horrible stomach bug. I did too but mine lasted a lot longer than theirs. That’s when it hit me. So on Christmas day we went out and bought a pregnancy test (the one that read pregnant/not pregnant) and it of course read pregnant! I am now a proud mommy of two very stinky kids, who are only 20 months apart.

Anyways have fun trying =o)

Jenna @ Newlyweds - February 5, 2009 - 8:20 am

Yes taking the test is part of the fun of it all. I know I probably took 10 tests. Are you charting? IF so how many days past ovulation did you test? With the twins I tested at 10 dpo and nothing, then tested again on day 14 and got a big line! Heres wishing to another fun month of trying!

Mindee - February 5, 2009 - 8:30 am

The first one took a full year. I had already had an appointment with the fertility specialist and a couple of tests by the time we conceived. The second one – boom! There he was. The third took a year again.

The tests drive me nuts. I never took one until day 29 because the waiting for the line became torture and when it didn’t appear – instant despair. Of course, when we finally did get a line, it was the most beautiful line EVER!

Jenny - February 5, 2009 - 8:35 am

I’ve been off the pill since the end of October and I’m not pregnant yet. I was almost convinced in December I was pregnant because there were 31 days between my periods, and I figured I was late the day I hit 28. Although when I took the test, I must say I was relieved to find out I wasn’t…just all of a sudden when it seemed so real that it was actually happening, I freaked out. I’m still optimistic about conceiving in a timely matter though…and I’m glad- sort of – that we have to work at it. And I bought the digital preg/not preg at Walgreens — a two pack for $10…it was cheaper than the ones with the lines.

admin - February 5, 2009 - 8:48 am

Carol – I know, I was amazed that they don’t want to see you right away, it just seems weird to me. But I guess that’s normal. Thanks for rooting for us – I bet dad wants another little one he can spoil, huh?

Kristy – ha ha!! Thanks! :)

Jana – great idea, I never even though of Costco!!

WofO – you know I’ll tell you as soon as I find out! It’ll be a big day for sure.

Domestic Fringe – really? I had no idea. I need to go to those stores more often!

LaDonna – what a great story! I bet they’re a handful, but it’ll be probably great to have them so close in age as they go through school.

Jenna @ Newlyweds – No, I’m not charting – I was just winging it this month. I’ve been writing it down, just not putting it in an actual chart. I figure if I don’t get pregnant soon, then I’ll start charting.

Mindee – really? a year and then right away and then a year again? I’ve read stories about that – where someone was meeting with the fertility specialist and got pregnant on their own. I’m glad it worked out for you and it didn’t take too terribly long!

Jenny – Walgreens? Nice, that’s a good price. I know – there’s this weird excitement where you are both relieved and excited at the same time. I know exactly what you mean!

Carissa - February 5, 2009 - 8:52 am

For me I never got pregnant BUT I remember this routine that you write about every month for alomst two years – I decided I had to stop then or it was going to kill me. But this post made me laugh and giddy with that new excitement of it all! I am sending all of my good vibes and fun your way :) And keep trying….

joy - February 5, 2009 - 9:15 am

Hi, I am a new reader of your blog! I just wanted to say I’ve been enjoying reading the back entries. My husband and I have been married almost 4 years this June and have a child who will be 3 in May. It took us about 5-6 months to get pregnant the first time but unfortunately I had a really early miscarriage. Luckily about a month or so after the miscarriage, I got pregnant with my son. I had him shortly before my 37th birthday. It probably took me a little longer than usual because of my age, etc. My husband’s brother and his wife had been trying for years (they will be married over 15 years this summer). They had gone to specialists (not sure which ones) but decided to give up after my husband and I got married (no pressure for them to have kids). And she got pregnant about the same time I did without any help! Go figure. I think the key is to relax and don’t think about it too much. I know it’s hard but I think without the pressure it’s a lot easier. Good luck and have fun in the process!

Kristina - February 5, 2009 - 9:24 am

I have no advice, just lots of good thoughts!

admin - February 5, 2009 - 9:48 am

Hi Carissa – nice to “see” you! I know, I worry that I’ll get too wrapped up in it at some point so I hope I can keep it relaxed and fun (key word in that sentence being: fun).

Joy – nice to “meet” you! That’s such a great story – I’m glad that you both were able to have little ones. I’m thinking there may be something to the whole relaxing thing.

Kristina – you’re sweet. I appreciate your good thoughts (and your funny posts!).

Stephanie - February 5, 2009 - 10:22 am

I always thought I was pregnant before I actually was–I think I had taken three tests in the time I had known Sean. I actually had one left over on the day that I took the one that was positive! :) The difference is we weren’t trying to have a baby until the time we actually got pregnant, I was just paranoid about it.

Anyway, it will happen! I really do think bodies are choosy, and if the egg that you’re cycling isn’t as healthy as one that might be a few months down the line, it won’t happen. When you get to the one that will help make your baby, then *boom*! Pregnancy! :)

“I would begin to wonder how I would feel to know that a baby was in fact growing inside me right at that very moment! ”

I love that!!! That’s how I was the weekend before I took my positive test.

Eryn - February 5, 2009 - 10:25 am

It ended up taking us 6 months, all told. There were many months of doing everything “right” (ovulation tests, tilting my pelvis so that things could “stew” after sex, etc.) but the first month that we stopped all that nonsense we got pregnant.

Joy is definitely right, the key is to relax! If you have a hard time relaxing, then it sometimes comes in the form of forced relaxation (when you’ve been trying for a long time and you finally give up).

Robynn's Ravings - February 5, 2009 - 10:31 am

Thanks for FOLLOWING over on my site! Love to have you and I’ll try to keep you laughing most of the time. That’s good for everything you’re trying to accomplish on the baby front. Been where you are and wishing you quick success. My pregnancies weren’t so easy and I know the frustration of checking in with your body every few minutes as though you were a weather station and had to post the results umpteen times a day. But I have two beautiful kids and it’s been an incredible ride. Can’t wait to hear about your big news!

Sabrina - February 5, 2009 - 10:38 am

The first time, we decided that we would just stop trying to prevent getting pregnant and the next month I was pregnant! When we decided we were ready to have our second child, same thing. We stopped preventing, the next month I was pregnant again! We were fully expecting it take a while and realize that we are very blessed for it to have been so easy for us. Looking back, I guess I’m pretty lucky that I don’t have an entire house full of kids!! :-)

admin - February 5, 2009 - 10:54 am

Stephanie – Great point (and something to keep in mind) about our bodies being choosy. I agree – if the egg isn’t viable, it’s best that we not get pregnant with it anyway.

Eryn – I think it’s official – I’m definitely going to have to relax more!

Robyn – of course, glad to help. And your posts definitely keep me laughing!

Sabrina – ha! That’s so great that it happened so quickly for you! That’s pretty amazing actually. :)

erin - February 5, 2009 - 11:19 am

I had been off birth control for about 2 years but we did not actively “try” until last summer. Before that it was just, if it happens it happens. When we started actively trying (tracking my cycles, keeping my hips up afterwards, etc), we were pregnant within the month.

For some reason I always thought my body would “know” the moment I got pregnant, why I don’t know because I was never one of those girls who could feel when they were ovulating. I did not truly think I was pregnant when I was a week late and did the test, but viola, two pink lines.

Just relax and have fun, it will happen when it’s supposed to. Keeping my fingers crossed for you! :)

Sandy - February 5, 2009 - 11:22 am

Hey Sweetie,
I may not be a good one to ask, as I got pregnant the 2nd month after trying to the first time. Then right away the next 4 times.
But I remember how much I wanted to get pregnant, especially the first time. After the first month I was so disappointed. Funny Blog…just keep on flying:) and having fun. These things are in the Lord’s hands. Men! they’re just like that you know,waiting to see if your period comes!! I know how badly you want a baby.
It’s funny that I knew when my daughter was pregnant before she did. I wanted that grandbaby so much. I have put my order in for another one, but to no avail…hee hee
Good Luck and I will say prayers for you Tabitha!

Briony - February 5, 2009 - 12:45 pm

this is such an exciting stage…i am not there in my life but I have had friends that have been there, i asked them how long they tried before they conceived and a couple of them said a few months, on said over a year, and another one said they didn’t try it was a beautiful surprise. i will be praying for you all :)

Julie - February 5, 2009 - 1:47 pm

We’re not trying for kids yet but we had a “scare” a few months back. So I went and bought a test. I opted to hold the test rather than trying to find a cup. Mistake. I ended up peeing all over my hand. So I commend you for choosing the cup method. :)

admin - February 5, 2009 - 2:56 pm

Erin – that’s funny, I can’t help but think that too, that my body will somehow know or that I’ll feel differently. I’m guessing I probably won’t.

Sandy – ahhh… a mother’s intuition! thanks for the sweet comments and the prayers!

Briony – thanks so much for your sweet words. I tell you, who knew there were so many people out there in blogland? I love it!!

Julie – since you’re not trying to get pregnant, then I’m definitely glad for you that it was just a scare! And yes, I think I’ll keep to the cup method too… :)

Liz - February 5, 2009 - 3:05 pm

I totally burst out laughing when I read your ‘flying without a parachute’ analogy. :) You’re too funny.

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!

Christine - February 5, 2009 - 5:46 pm

We’ll have been trying for 2 years in May. The 12-14 months it was more like “if it happens, it happens”. It didn’t. Then I started charting. Freaking out if my cycle lasted a couple days longer than the last or wondering if that spotting was really implantation spotting and not AF (it was really AF, I just kept hoping!). After a major meltdown at the end of December, I stopped charting. This is my 2nd month “taking a break”. But I went and bought ovulation tests.

People say to relax, but when you’ve been trying for so long, it just consumes you. You can’t stop wondering about it and hoping it happens.

Good luck to you!

MommyAmy - February 5, 2009 - 8:41 pm

I’ve shared my story here before, but to recap, it took us about a year and 1 cycle on clomid to get pregnant.

About your tester questions, I found this site EXTREMELY helpful in answering my questions about how accurate those tests are. Great site, tons of info, should answer pretty much any question you have about them. :) http://www.peeonastick.com/

Good luck!

Ali - February 5, 2009 - 8:49 pm

Yep – just keep on trying!
We conceived each of the boys while on (different) holidays, a month after an early (6wk) miscarriage. The dr’s said to “wait a few months” after the missed ones, but we tried right away and BANG – it worked.

I TOTALLY hid those silly sticks behind my makeup bag in the bathroom! Haha. Nothing like just KNOWING. ASAP. But we had fuzzy weird lines that still had us guessing, so…

It really becomes real – like a ton of bricks (happy bricks?) – at the first ultrasound. And you see it. And you cry, because how awesome.

GOOD LUCK! I’m sure you’ll keep us all posted ;-) .

admin - February 5, 2009 - 9:00 pm

Hey Liz – thanks, I appreciate all the finger-crossing I can get!

Christine – I would imagine it would be hard, especially after concentrating on it for a while. I will be keeping you in my thoughts!

Amy – okay, I HAVE to go check out that site now!! :)

Ali – ha! You hid your tests too? Awesome! Just thinking about the first ultrasound – wow, I can’t wait!

M to T&T&A&D - February 6, 2009 - 7:30 am

What an exciting time in your and the CPA lives!!! Anxiousness and nervousness become two words to describe you during this time. But also loving and preparing. You and the CPA are ready to welcome a child into your family and give them all the love you have.

It’s great how medical technology helps us find things so quickly these days. In this instance it truly can be a double edged sword sort of thing. While it gives you confirmation quickly so you can celebrate and let your family know (thank goodness for conference calls huh?) it also can add fuel to your anxiousness which in this case you want to keep to a minimum so you can get the positive result.

RELAX. My sister years ago gave me this sage advice when I was pregnant with our first child (guess who that was) and I was getting very nervous about delivery and taking care of this new little person. She told me: millions and millions of other women have had babies, tons without the help I would be receiving and they had all done beautifully and so would I. She gave me this sentence to keep repeating; You can do this – RELAX, RELAX, RELAX. I know, sounds almost too simple but so very powerful because it works!!

So you will have to use something very similiar now – relax, relax, relax. Enjoy being with your CPA and trust Heavenly Father. He truly knows what’s best for you and the CPA. You’ll be given the child you should have and he/she will be perfect for you and the CPA!!!

Jennifer - February 6, 2009 - 12:25 pm

My husband and I got pregnant the first time right away, without even trying, in fact we were down right stupid and also “flew without a parachute.” Well one missed period, and one First Response test later we learned I was pregnant. About 3 weeks later I miscarried. I was completely devastated, but knew we would try again soon, and that ultimately it would happen when God allowed it to happen. Even knowing God would take care of the timing, didn’t stop us from “actively” trying to produce results on our own. I went through dozens of tests thinking with each one this could be it. I waited with anticipation after each test and was always disappointed after not seeing the second line. It wasn’t until we decided to “give up” that we finally after a year and half learned we were expecting.

Beth - February 7, 2009 - 10:44 am

Hi, Tabitha!
I often see your comments on Pioneer Woman, and have followed them to your site several times. I was excited to see that you and the CPA would be “trying” come this year! My husband and I went off birth control in August, figuring that we would stop trying NOT to get pregnant…

But then every month I convinced myself that my breasts were sore and I was peeing more than usual…and on day 26 I would take a pregnancy test to see a negative result, and then my period would start the next day. I was always disappointed.

Then my husband went to the doctor for a physical, and the doctor informed him of an odd (but harmless) condition…well, the only harm being that it might decrease fertility.

So for the last month and a half I was convinced this wasn’t the time for us, and maybe someday it would be. But then, in the middle of the night this past Monday, I realized it had been about 30 days since my last period (and I have a 27 day cycle!). First thing Tuesday, I peed on a stick and it was POSITIVE!

I am five weeks pregnant today! It’s still very early, so we’ve only told our parents, but I wanted to share my story with you! We’re hoping and praying that everything goes well with our little baby!

So, anyway, just relaxing worked for us! Along with a fun weekend in Seattle in a honeymoon suite;) (We never stayed in a suite on our actual honeymoon!)

Lindsey - February 7, 2009 - 11:43 am

Like you, I am a very impatient and when I want something I want it now! We decided to try for our second child and we weren’t sure how it would go since #1 was somewhat of a surprise.

Anyway after a couple of months with no luck and lots of frustration on my part, I tried to do something else.
If you google “ovulation calendar”, it will ask you some questions about your menstrual cycle and give you a window which they think is the best time to conceive.

Now, me not wanting to waste “anything” I also went out and bought an ovulation kit – more sticks to pee on for 7 days. It tells you when your body is starting to ovulate and to definitely do the deed that day and the next day.

Anyway, yesterday my pregnancy test showed a plus sign, so I guess it worked for us!

Good luck!

Sam - February 7, 2009 - 6:33 pm

I really really appreciate your post on this topic because I just went through the exact same thing!!!! I mean exactly the same “feelings” and everything. I’m trying to convince myself that I’m not obsessing, I’m just having fun hoping to be able to unwrap that gift I was hoping for – to use your analogy – when I try a pregnancy test. Have you considered the website http://www.fertilityfriend.com ? I am surprised to find myself looking forward to the next time like a newlywed! So, this is definitely fun for now.

Melinda - February 7, 2009 - 7:20 pm

I have to admit every time I took one it was that feeling of opening a present. Unfortunately (or fortunately), we didn’t have to take very many tests. With my son, we got pregnant the first month…although I didn’t believe it so I took 3 tests just to be sure! And with my daughter, we only tried for 2 months. I bet it is a novelty type thing in the beginning but could get frustrating if conception takes too long. I wouldn’t get hung up on it if that happens. Like a few people said, sometimes when you don’t expect it, it happens.

admin - February 9, 2009 - 2:19 pm

I just wanted to respond to these last few comments by saying how much I appreciate hearing your individual stories – and congrats to those of you who are now expecting – that’s so exciting!!

Robert - February 10, 2009 - 2:13 pm

I don’t share this story to brag, but you asked about conceiving, so I’ll answer that first. My wife and I got pregnant each time we tried almost immediately. We’ve now had five pregnancies which led to three successful births of beautiful children. In the case of every pregnancy, we basically “knew” the moment it happened. I cannot explain that to someone rationally. It sounds like a bunch of nonsense to most people. Yet it is true for us. With our first, we ignored countless pregnancy tests that said otherwise, finally getting the confirmation from the doctor that we were indeed pregnant. With the second (first miscarriage), we just looked at each other a few hours or maybe a day later and said “Well, I guess we’re having another little one.” or something like that. The miscarriage was fairly devastating because it just doesn’t occur to you. Pregnancy is hard enough – not getting to see a beautiful baby at the end is heart wrenching. With number three, he was sort of a new year’s baby (born October 10) so we again just knew when it happened. The next pregnancy would have been again, but another miscarriage led to some sad times. We were actually told not to try again for two months, but we were on vacation and… well… number five was born exactly nine months after that. My wife had fun explaining to each doctor here lmp, “I haven’t really had one since December, but here’s why” kind of thing. I wish you luck. Many of our friends and family have struggled in the process of trying to conceive. We have simply been very blessed. That or we have children who just have no patience… they want to come down here and play! That’s how we see it anyway.

Maggie - February 11, 2009 - 10:23 am

I am so not typical but I got pregnant with my first on the first try! It took us about 2 months to get pregnant with my second. I will say though, that every time I thought for sure I was pregnant, I wasn’t and when I thought there was no way, I was!

Good luck!

Carol - February 13, 2009 - 9:03 am

I followed a comment from over at PW and got lost in someof your posts. What an exciting time for you! Since you were asking about other experiences:

#1 took us about 5 months. It was so disappointing to realize it doesn’t always just “happen” after you’ve worked so many years NOT to get pregnant!

#2 got pregnant the first month!

We wanted a #3 and tried for almost 2 years. During that time we were also foster parents. It came to be that we were able to adopt one of our foster babies, and we decided that was how God meant for us to have #3. We didn’t “put the parachute back on” to use your analogy LOL, but assumed we couldn’t get pregnant again. Well, during all the legal wranglings we found out #4 was on his way!

We are a happy, full family, and we are DONE!

btw, I really like using this free ovulation calendar to help determine the best days http://www.webmd.com/baby/healthtool-ovulation-calendar

Carol

Tessa - February 14, 2009 - 6:23 pm

It took tooooo long. Then a round of IVF and 7 1/2 months later (she was early!) I had my miracle. I had prayed and prayed and prayed and finally she came true.

Sarah - February 15, 2009 - 3:13 pm

Oh my gosh, this is too funny! =) I could have written this!

So, it actually took us one go. We decided to try, hopped in the sack once, and then my husband had to travel for work, so we decided to resume trying after he returned. And by the time he got home, I’d already tested pregnant. We were ecstatic.

Then we miscarried.

It took us eight months from that point to get pregnant again, and every time I laid in bed after sex and wondered whether or not that was possibly a little bundle of cells moving in there. Lol. The one month I didn’t wonder was the month we finally conceived again.

Good luck! Enjoy the trying!

I mean, TESTING, enjoy the testing!

Julie - February 19, 2009 - 8:36 pm

Um… maybe I shouldn’t post but it took us 4 years and 5 IUI’s. :( We used ovulation tests to find out when I was going to ovulate because my cycles are all over the place. We’re thinking about giving it another shot – we won’t try for too long so maybe we’ll get lucky and it will happen much more quickly this time! (I actually KNEW the one time it worked – 6 days after we had the IUI I had cramping at night… implantation cramping! I never had any other symptoms, I really didn’t even believe it for the longest time.)

Julie - February 21, 2009 - 8:51 am

Best of luck…

Angela - February 25, 2009 - 1:52 pm

I wish you and the CPA nothing but luck. For me and my husband, it never happened and the routine of which you write slowly got annoying and depressing for me then we found out it wasn’t possible for us to have our own kids – which, as it turned out, was a blessing because before getting that news we discussed all the things that come with kids and discovered we were happy just us – and with all the kids we have in our life, we get the benefits of the fun kids can be without the responsibilities of being parents! Win-Win, for us anyway.

Katrina - March 4, 2009 - 8:31 pm

This is hilarious! I totally get it. I convinced my husband we should start trying to get pregnant but it was already a little late in the month for me. Still, I was analyzing everything wondering if I was in fact pregnant… and my period was a week late! We got pregnant the next month. I wouldn’t take the test until my period was at least a week late and it showed a positive result within seconds.

Ruby - March 12, 2009 - 2:53 am

It took us 3 years – almost exactly.
We couldn’t understand why it didn’t happen the first couple of months. We charted, we took temperatures, and eventually after 12 mths visited out GP and got a referral to a specialist. We then spent 18 mths having investigations and tests (nothing wrong with either of us) and undergoing treatments. When the last IUI treatment failed in November we knew it was time to get serious. Our next options were IVF and / or adoption and we had an appointment early Jan to discuss these options with the consultant.
I don’t know if its because the time was right, or because we had stopped “trying” to conceive or what….and I prefer not to question really – but two days before Xmas I discovered I was pregnant :)
I am now 16 weeks and expecting our baby in August.
All the heartache of the last three years is forgotten and we are just so blessed and excited to be where we are today.
I truly hope it happens for you soon and will keep my fingers crossed that it does. But if it takes a while don’t lose hope and don’t let it take over your lives. Stay cool :)

Sarah B. - March 20, 2009 - 8:07 am

So, it took me 13 months to have our baby boy, who is now 8 months. In that 13 months I TTC by myself but couldn’t so we were put on Clomid (a fertility drug), we got pregnant two months later, then miscarried 10 weeks later, then when we started tryinmg again we successfully got pregnant 3 months later. Since having little man we had a surprise pregnancy, which also resulted in a miscarriage, but I will cowboy up again in a couple of months and take the goalie out of teh net – I want my brood:)

There is a great site you can get hosiptal pregnancy testst for CHEAP. I went through a bunch each month, and this saved me a fortune!!! 25 Pregnancy strips for $11.25, and the same for Ovulation tests (which really helped). The site is: http://www.saveontests.com. I just landed on your blog from Mormon Mommy blogs and I love your blog, very snazzy! Anyway, GOOD LUCK:)

Sarah B. - March 20, 2009 - 8:09 am

So, it took me 13 months to have our baby boy, who is now 8 months. In that 13 months I TTC by myself (well with my husband too:) but couldn’t so we were put on Clomid (a fertility drug), we got pregnant two months later, then miscarried 10 weeks later, then when we started trying again we successfully got pregnant 3 months later. Since having little man we had a surprise pregnancy, which also resulted in a miscarriage, but I will cowboy up in a couple of months and take the goalie out of the net again – I want my brood:)

There is a great site you can get hosiptal pregnancy tests for CHEAP. I went through a bunch each month, and this saved me a fortune!!! 25 Pregnancy strips for $11.25, and the same for Ovulation tests (which really helped). The site is: http://www.saveontests.com. I just landed on your blog from Mormon Mommy blogs and I love your blog, very snazzy! Anyway, GOOD LUCK:)

Sarah
http://www.tellallontuesday.blogspot.com
http://www.spirituallythinking.blogspot.com

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Kate - March 20, 2009 - 9:15 am

This post made me laugh — My husband and I are in our first month “flying without a parachute” and I just got my first (and hopefully last?) negative test. It was too early (read: I was too impatient), so I’m keeping my fingers crossed that I don’t get my period in the next few days and can test again.

Come check out our “his and hers” blog… http://thisplaceisnowahome.wordpress.com/

Kate´s last blog post..She Says… Negative. But thinking positive.

Courtney, Jer.33:3 - March 24, 2009 - 5:49 am

I know exactly what you’re going through right now! The trying, hoping, waiting, taking tests, etc. My husband and I got pregnant not long after we were married ( 10/2008 ), but it ended up as a miscarriage. The last few months since then have been emotional for me, but I know that God is in control and that He’ll send us a little one when He thinks we’re ready for it!

Diaper Cakes Becca - March 27, 2009 - 3:57 pm

There is something so exciting about the pregnancy test scenerio. My tubes were tied 3 years ago and we were a bit afraid last fall…..we were convinved that something had gone awry. My husband went and bought it after we had shared this secret all night between ourselves (the five kids were not aware of what was going on in our world). We were taking it out and even though we had said we didn’t want any more (and we really don’t want anymore)……we got kind of used to the idea in those couple of hours.

The test was negative, of course…..and I think we were both somewhat disappointed. We had grown used to the idea in that short amount of time….

My tubes will stay tied but I think neither of us would really be that upset is something did go wrong down the road. I doubt if it will but the anticipation of not knowing for sure and having that moment cummulate while gazing down at the white stick waiting for a line to show up or not show up—–THOSE are anxious moments full of so much hope and wonder.

Ahhh……

Nikol - June 17, 2009 - 11:17 am

We are on Month #2 trying, and after that first month of TORTURE, we have decided to not think about it and just…ummm…do it. Timing, and Temping, and am I ovulating? Are you going to be home tonight? We have to “do stuff” tonight…and when are you going to be home so we can…ummm…do stuff?!

It was too much. Hopefully things will be calmer this month and from now on…what’s meant to be will be.

Ijusthopeitsmeanttobethismonth.

Nikol´s last blog post..to love food i hate

Conceive A Baby - April 14, 2010 - 5:17 pm

Really cool post, highly informative and professionally written..Good Job

Pregnance Miracles Book - October 3, 2010 - 7:51 am

I also had a hard time to conceive… Very emotional. I found this great book.. its a great read and includes “ancient chinese” infertility therapies to help you have a baby. See the link above.

Tammy - November 10, 2010 - 4:52 pm

Glad you wrote this down – I’m currently on this route and feeling exactly the same way! Even though your experience was almost 2 years ago, I appreciate being able to read someone else’s account as if it was today since most of my girlfriends and sisters are either single or have 10 year olds …

Thanks! And keep your fingers crossed for me :)

Suzanne @ Window On The Prairie - December 4, 2010 - 4:17 pm

Reading this post and all the comments has been encouraging for me. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for about 18 months now. I try not to give up, but it’s hard. I’m 42 and so I’m sure that’s a factor. But it’s been helpful to read what everyone has said here and we’ll keep trying. Thank you!
Suzanne
.-= Suzanne @ Window On The Prairie´s last blog ..A Black-Billed Magpie and A Mountain Jay =-.

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