A Little Friday Gratitude – Speaking in Church

Some of you may think it’s strange to say that I’m grateful for having to speak in church this Sunday.  And others of you may have no idea what I’m talking about.  I think the reason I’m writing about this today, is because I’m trying to convince myself.  

Actually, truth be told, I am grateful for the opportunity.  I am nervous, yes.  A little trepidacious, definitely.  But still grateful.  For those of you who don’t know anything about the church (that would be the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints), it’s a “lay” church.  This simply means that there is no paid clergy – all of the positions are volunteer.  Everyone from the president of the church (President Thomas S. Monson) all the way down to those who work in the nursery (my sweet sister and her husband – props to them) do it without pay.

That means that every Sunday during our main meeting (known as “sacrament,”) we hear from someone different, someone in the congregation who has been asked to speak on a certain topic.  They’re given a time limit and the subject matter with maybe a few suggestions thrown in, but the rest is up to them.  The same goes for the classes after sacrament meeting where we study the scriptures and such.  Those work a little bit differently as a few people have been asked to be a regular teacher for that class (like my husband).  This means that once a month my husband puts together a lesson and for 30 minutes, he’s the teacher of his class.

That’s what I’m doing on Sunday – teaching the class of women (called Relief Society).  There will be about 40-60 people there, give or take.  So a good size crowd, but not overwhelming.  The reason I’m nervous, is because I haven’t done it in a while.  It can be intimidating standing in front of people who probably know a lot more than I do and who may be better speakers.

So why am I grateful for it?  Because it’s made me leave my comfort zone where I’ve been quite comfortable, thank you very much.  The past few years between moving and switching congregations, I’ve flown under the radar and haven’t had to teach or speak once.  So when I was asked to fill in for the regular teacher, I swallowed my fear and said yes.  And every day this week, I have gone home and read through the scriptures and studied the topic for an hour.  That’s something I don’t normally do.  So this assignment has challenged me to focus on my spiritual self instead of watching TV or reading blogs (nothing wrong with either of those things, btw.  I love them equally).

I’m glad that the church is organized this way – that it asks its members to be the ones to teach each other.  I remember as a kid, standing up in front of the congregation to give my two-minute talk on faith.  Yeah it was scary, but I did it and I grew.  Throughout the years I’ve had various church assignments and talks I had to give and each of them has helped me in some way.  Before I moved to DC, I taught a class of 16-17 year old girls.  At first I wondered why on earth they had asked me to do that.  I mean it had been a good 15 years since I was in their shoes, how could I possibly help them?  What could they learn from me?  The amazing thing is that I started doing it and I was the one who ended up learning.  Yes, I was able to relate experiences that may have helped them in some way, but I was the one who grew.  It was and still is one of the best church assignments I’ve ever had. 

Even knowing this, accepting church assignments isn’t always easy, but I’m grateful for the opportunity.  I’m nervous about Sunday and even though it’ll be a challenge, I know I’ll be a better person for it. 

ps – they just asked me to speak to the congregation in two weeks (200-300 people).  Yikes!  Maybe that’s what happens when you start saying yes?  Wish me luck!

What about you – have you ever had to teach or speak in front of a large group of people?

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Joanna - February 6, 2009 - 6:33 am

I was a middle school librarian for three years. And before that a children’s librarian at the main branch of the Dallas Public Library. So most of my public speaking has been in front of groups under the age of 14. Not that I wasn’t nervous …

Carol - February 6, 2009 - 7:03 am

You’ll do great!!! I always speak from my perspective. That way you are coming at it from your point of view and no matter how old you are or what experience you’ve had, it’s yours. I have had many people walk up to me after teaching or speaking and say that they had not looked at my topic like that before. I had given them a different point of view. We had to speak on Mother’s Day. John had been given the topic of Behold the Mother and I was “let loose”. I chose to talk about Other Mothers in our lives. Grandmothers, Step-Mothers, Mothers-in-Law and teachers that would often be in the role of Mother or Friend.

I think this is one of the most wonderful things about our church. And the upside is that you definitely get over the fear of public speaking.

M to T&T&A&D - February 6, 2009 - 7:11 am

I love this about the church….being given the opportuntities to serve (and speaking and teaching is service to others.) This is one of the ways Heavenly Father reaches us here on earth. We want to do a good job and speak/teach to the best of our ability. With this desire in our heart, WE’RE ready to be taught. And thus the channel of communciation opens to Heavenly Father and he teaches us as we prepare to speak and/or teach others. Through the spirit we’re led to study, ponder and pray to understand our topic and seek out in the scriptures and other spiritual materials enlightment, understanding and comphension of what we’re talking and teaching.

What a marvelous and unique thing for each of us to have the chance to do. I KNOW you will do a wonderful job in teaching your RS lesson. Wish I could be there to hear you. I’ll be praying for you. I’m sure you’re already seeing so many things with your daily preparations already. Each time we read the scriptures, our eyes and hearts are opened to greater understanding and closeness to the Savior.

You’ll do a great job!!!

The Wife of Odie - February 6, 2009 - 7:24 am

Oh I can’t wait to hear you on Sunday! I will most definitely be there, naturally. I remember when you taught Relief Society before and visiting your class and you were SO good. Honestly. Sisters aside. I think it runs in the blood. Everyone in our family is great at public speaking.

So with that, good luck. I don’t think you’ll need it, but still. I follow traditions and that’s one of them.

I’m going to study up on the topic so I can make some awesome comments in class. :)

admin - February 6, 2009 - 7:39 am

Hi Joanna – I have to say that sometimes, standing in front of kids is much worse than adults! You have to keep their attention and they have no problem rolling their eyes when they don’t like what you’re saying, so good for you!

Carol – thanks! I agree, adding your own perspective is the key and is what makes it personal and hard to refute.

M to TTDA – I know, I wish you could be there too. I’m sure WofO will be taking notes!

WofO – I’m glad you’ll be there – it will be nice to have you there, comforting. :)

John von Cannon - February 6, 2009 - 7:54 am

Sweetie–enjoyed the post! I know you well enough that you will do great. Carol and I remember how well you were in front of large groups during your Temple Square mission! BTW–may I attend? I would if I could. And remember one thing from he who does this almost weekly (church and work), most people in the audiance are so thankful they are not the ones standing behind the podium!!!

Mindee - February 6, 2009 - 8:05 am

There is something wrong with me, because I LOVE speaking in front of people. I just adore having all eyes on me and people being forced to feign interest and laugh politely at whatever I come up with.

Just think of it as live blogging. You have such a way with words. I’m sure you’ll be fine.

Eryn - February 6, 2009 - 8:17 am

At our church in Austin, TX, my husband and I helped to teach the junior high kids. There were about 6-10 kids that would come each Sunday. Now, at our new church in Richmond we are helping with the youth again…but this youth group is much different! It consists of about 30-40 kids, most of whom are from the inner city. So I definitely know how you feel!!!! ;-)

admin - February 6, 2009 - 8:43 am

Hi John (aka dad) – thanks! and I would have you attend if you could. :)

Mindee – Ha! That made me laugh. Actually it’s good – we need people like you to balance out the rest of us!! And that’s sweet – I’ll just think of it as live blogging!

Eryn – wow, that’s a lot of kids! Good for you – I bet it’s tough sometimes but hopefully very rewarding.

Jenna @ Newlyweds - February 6, 2009 - 9:03 am

I am sure you will do great! I know the feeling nervousness mixed with excitement. Good luck!

Kristina - February 6, 2009 - 9:30 am

We have been in our ward, now a branch, for almost 4 years, and haven’t had to speak. In fact, I don’t think we’ve had to speak in church since we’ve been married, almost 5 years ago!

the domestic fringe - February 6, 2009 - 11:12 am

Public speaking gives me the sweats. It goes much better than it seems to me, but I told someone that if I suddenly drop to floor while I’m speaking, it’s because I had a heart-attack.

You’ll be great!
-FringeGirl

admin - February 6, 2009 - 12:55 pm

Thanks Jenna, I appreciate your well wishes!

Kristina – ha! You realize that now they’re going to ask you, right? :)

domestic Fringe – I know what you mean, it can be really tough. The toughest speeches I ever gave were to my peers during a speech class I took in college. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that they were recording us?

erin - February 6, 2009 - 2:39 pm

Good luck! I always had a hard time speaking in public, even just to put in my $0.02 at a work training or small group/Bible study at church. I just figure that God gave me many talents and public speaking/teaching is not one of them. I can’t be fabulous at everything! ;)

Ernestina - February 6, 2009 - 4:39 pm

I would be terrified to do this but my husband speaks all the time and has even gotten awards. I’ll tell you what he does… he practices in the mirror. He also types up sort of an agenda or outline to help him along. He tries to relate to the people by saying things like “right” or “remember that” or “as we all know”. You’ll do great! Good luck.

Briony - February 6, 2009 - 7:20 pm

wow that is awesome! way to step outside your comfort zone…my church asked me to lead a class for the 10-12yr old girls and that made me nervous. i am excited to hear how it goes…be sure to update us :)

you are going to do great…no luck needed!

MommyAmy - February 6, 2009 - 8:09 pm

The most recent time that I’ve given a speech was 2 years ago for a business networking group I was a part of. I had 8 minutes to talk about affordable housing, and why affordable home ownership was important. I think I did ok. I realized half way through that I had planed to talk about WAY more than what the time allowed. Once I get goin’ I just don’t know how to shut up apparently!

admin - February 6, 2009 - 8:47 pm

Erin – Ha! No, but I’m sure you’re close! :)

Ernestina – Good ideas – I’ll have to remember that, thanks!!

Briony – Yeah… I’ll be glad when it’s over though. You’re very sweet to say so.

MommyAmy – I agree, that’s the hard part sometimes – knowing when to stop!

Sandy - February 6, 2009 - 9:02 pm

Tabitha you served a Temple Square Mission?! That is so cool! So did my daughter Clarissa, Jun04 til Nov05. She went to Beaverton, OR for her 3-4 mo’s. We both teach in RS as well, in our different Wards. I spoke in Sacrament couple of months ago and I am still recovering from it.:-) Makes me very nervous. But I love our Church! You are a very good writer and very funny. You are going to do Great Sunday!! Wish I could hear you as well!

Gennaro - February 6, 2009 - 11:30 pm

That sounds like a worthwhile experience. It can be tough to get up in front of a crowd of your peers to teach, but nothing compared to teenagers :) Have fun and good luck.

Genesis - February 8, 2009 - 2:23 pm

I’m sure you will be fabulous. I do not like speaking in front of people I struggle and it freaks me out every time I have to do a talk even sharing time is a strugle for me and I’m only in primary. What can I say I guess this will help me through out my life I love church! I’m glad you talk about it on your blog. I have only been a member for 6 years now.

Blond Duck - February 9, 2009 - 11:08 am

I saw you on Kristina’s blog and wanted to pop in and say hi!

admin - February 9, 2009 - 1:18 pm

Hi Sandy – I sure did! it was so many years ago though. :) that’s great that your daughter went there – what a small world!

Gennaro – thanks, it wasn’t too bad after all, but I’m glad it’s done!

Genesis – You’re so sweet. It’s nice to see you over here!

Blond Duck – hi, isn’t Kristina great!!

Robert - February 10, 2009 - 2:20 pm

I’m completely new to your blog. I either found it because of Natasha (Becoming Something) or Heidi (While My Boyfriend Was Sleeping), but I had not connected that you were a member of the church. Good for you to look forward to teaching. It’s the best way to learn. I spoke in sacrament on Sunday on two days notice, but it might’ve been one of the best jobs I’ve ever done. I just prayed to be guided by the Spirit after I found a Conference talk to speak on, and I know that I was guided in all I said. I love the chance to get that feeling.

Sam - February 12, 2009 - 7:34 pm

I hope it went well! What did you speak on?

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