Pregnancy – My Mother’s Story

When the CPA and I decided to try to get pregnant, I jumped in with both feet.  (Okay, it’s more like I dipped my toe into the shallow end of the pool, but it got wet, nonetheless.)  In any case, we didn’t make this decision lightly.  It was made after a lot of hours spent talking, reading, praying, debating, and hoping.  But once the decision was made, I realized I wanted to have an idea of what I was getting myself into.  Since there’s no way to know something until you try it, I did the next best thing.  I called my mother.

I asked her the usual stuff – what does pregnancy feel like?  Did she have morning sickness? How bad was the labor – did it really hurt?  Did she have complications?  While I’m guessing a lot of this stuff isn’t genetic and isn’t passed down like hair color or skin tone, I still wanted to know.  It made feel feel better somehow. Like maybe if my mom could do it, I could do it too.  

So she told me her story.  

She had a relatively easy first pregnancy with no morning sickness.  Here she is pregnant with me, looking like she was ready to get me out of there (which I’m sure at that point she was).  

She looks fantastic!  Of course she was 21, which is a whopping 16 years younger than I’ll be when I’m pregnant.  But still… she was looking pretty great for someone about to go into labor!

And the front view is even better.  Look at that glow.  Look at that shiny hair.  

Aaaand then we get to this.

My mom looks gorgeous – cute dress, great skin tone, beautiful smile.  The hair, on the other hand, well – it kind-of reminds me of Marge Simpson (sorry Mom).  But it’s not my mom’s fault, I mean that was the style of the day.  Look at the other wig sitting there on the table and you’ll see what I mean.  (That really has nothing to do with her being pregnant, I just wanted to point it out.)

Not too long after this picture was taken, she went into labor.  Since they thought she was overdue, they  induced her.  My dad was there in the labor room keeping her company while my mom was hooked up to an IV drip.  The nurses kept coming in to check on her, while the doctor remained out of sight.  When I started to crown, they ran to get the doctor, put a mask over my mom’s face, and wheeled her into the delivery room.  The next thing she remembered was waking up in the recovery room and having the nurses place me in her arms. 

And here’s what she said in her own words:

“I was so thrilled but so worried I’d drop you because I was still was a little sleepy from being totally put to sleep for delivery. It was just the two of us for a little bit and what a special, sweet time it was. You were gorgeous – all pink faced, blond fuzz all over your head, and the cutest little cheeks.  You did, however, have red marks or either side of your cheek near your eyes. That is were the doctor had to use the forceps to help deliver you from the birth canal. But they faded in just a day or two. You were perfect!!!”

I’m happy to say that there were no complications or problems.  My mother recovered from the episiotomy and was back to normal soon thereafter.   And look how beautiful she was – no worse for the wear. 

Here is one of my all-time favorite pictures.

I love the way she’s looking down at me.  That right there shows me that it was worth it. It was so helpful to hear my mother’s story and it was nice to know what she experienced.   I figure that if she could survive the whole experience unscathed, then I can probably do it too. 

Now we just have to get pregnant!

What about you – have you talked to your mom about your own birth?  

 


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Julie - February 10, 2009 - 5:53 am

My mom claims that she wasn’t sick during the pregnancy and that labor didn’t hurt at all with me. I don’t believe her. But both the pregnancy and the labor of my sister were so bad that I think she just compared the two. Can’t wait to have kids but the though of labor scares the living daylights out of me.

Kristy - February 10, 2009 - 6:19 am

My mom was thought to be over due too (I was only six pounds, so we think the dates were just off), so she’d been on maternity leave for a month. She took a fall down the back stairs in the last month, but didn’t land on me, so I was fine. She was awake, but medicated with Stadol during labor. They tried to put in a saddle block, but it failed. I was born at two in the morning with my dad in the waiting room the whole time. He did stay in the room until they took my mom to delivery with my sister, but she was born in less than an hour after they arrived!

Margie - February 10, 2009 - 7:05 am

Of course you can do it. And when you hold that little, precious human being, you’ll know it was all worth it. Now, hurry and get pregnant. TeeHee

the domestic fringe - February 10, 2009 - 7:14 am

That was a very sweet story and your mom did look fabulous!

Love the wigs…my mom had one too.

-FringeGirl

Eryn - February 10, 2009 - 7:20 am

My mom claims she is too old and doesn’t remember.

Sabrina - February 10, 2009 - 8:00 am

I was a breech delivery for my mom and though I’m not old,(40 is not old is it??):-) I guess they just didn’t do c-sections as much then as they do now. So bless her ever loving heart, she delivered me, with much difficulty, folded over butt first. I think she lost alot of blood but that’s about all I know.

Of course, my older brothers always loved to tease me that I showed the world what I thought of it the day I was born. :-)

M to T&T&A&D - February 10, 2009 - 8:24 am

Seeing the pictures just brings those precious memories rushing back as though it were yesterday and I can still feel the joy of the first moment that I saw you and held you. Nothing can ever erase that time. Gotta say, at the time I thought I was rather “cool”. Don’t remember why we all had to have wigs to wear occassionally, but ‘everybody” did have at least one.

There is truly nothing like being a Mother!!! The joy and love just completely fill you up. Any memory of difficulties or unpleasantness fade from your memory and you are filled with such wonder and love when you hold your precious blessing from Heavenly Father in your arms for the first time.

Each of us is unique and special in our own way and thus each of our pregnancies and deliveries will be unique and special in our own way too. But….we all must go through birth in order to deliver the little one (or ones) we’ve so lovingly longed for.

You will be able to do everything you need to do to have your precious little one. You’ll have the CPA right there with you. And so will I!!! So for now, relax and let nature take its course so this journey can begin for you and the CPA!!!!

admin - February 10, 2009 - 8:39 am

Julie – I’m with you on that one – I hear of women having natural births and I think they’re amazing because I just don’t know if I could do it. But then I start thinking, well, maybe it’s not so bad….

Kristy – isn’t it interesting that they didn’t let the guys in the room years ago? I find that so funny that they just sat outside and waited. Maybe watched the football game while the mom is in there doing the hard stuff. :)

Margie – ha! you sound like the CPA! He’s wondering why we’re not pregnant already!!

Domestic Fringe – I know, aren’t those wigs fantastic? I asked her how she got it to stay on and she said she remembered she didn’t lean her head a lot while wearing it.

Eryn – yeah, I’ve heard that you forget after a while, at least the pain. I guess there’s some truth to that or women wouldn’t have more than one child!

Sabrina – yikes! Your poor mother! So glad both of you were okay.

M to TTDA – so sweet! So glad to finally have your story down on “paper.” And don’t worry, you were cool! Still are…

Carol - February 10, 2009 - 8:52 am

Your Mother said everything so well. There are certain moments in life that are just imprinted on your brain so that you never forget them. Holding your baby for the first time is one of them.

I, too, had to be induced because Jay was about 4 days overdue. The doctor said he would just get bigger and he knew he was term size. Keep in mind there were no ultrasounds back then. I was taken to the hospital about 8 AM and the drip was started. At about 10:30 I remember saying “ouch”. They came over and put something in that IV that totally put me out. I have vague memories of being put on the delivery table and the big light overhead. I saw my doctor with his face covered. Jay was born at 10:30 PM. The next thing I remember is waking up at about 2:30 AM and asking to see my baby. The nurse told me that I was so drugged that I wouldn’t remember it. I argued with her. (At least half the staff in the nursery were customers at our grocery store. They kept pointing out that Jay was Mr. Horne’s grandbaby, so he was spoiled before I even got him home.) She relented and brought him to me and that memory is as clear as if it happened yesterday.

Back then only the Mother could touch the child, not even the Father.I stayed in the hospital one full week. From this point on I don’t want to scare you because today what happened to me would never happen because of all the advances in medical procedures, but let’s just say I weighed 90 lbs and Jay weighed 7lbs 9oz, so you get the picture. I kept thinking the whole time that this is how we all got here, so I can do it!!!

I did not have one sick day during either of my pregnancies. I glowed and I craved Dr. Pepper’s (the small one’s in the bottle)and Krystal lemon pie. Daddy would buy me a whole pie and wouldn’t let anybody have any of it until I was done.

Mother said when she told him that I was fine and the baby was fine, he cried. I’ve got to say the birth of a Grandchild is an extension of that feeling when you have your own children. I’m sure this would be even more so if you have a daughter.

Kristina - February 10, 2009 - 9:16 am

Your mother is beautiful!

Ali - February 10, 2009 - 9:39 am

That’s fantastic, to be able to share like that with your mother. And photos! OHmygosh. I get one standard response for any question ever asked of my mother – “Oh, well, you know. It was the same as any other”. Veeeeery informative.

And don’t worry about being older than she was – I think us “older” gals really embrace our kids in an entirely different way, with a life of experience in us, than our young mothers were able to.

Jenna @ Newlyweds - February 10, 2009 - 9:45 am

Yes I love birth stories and when I was pregnant I asked my mom all the time about each of our births (I have two brothers) Though my mom was a tropper and had us each naturally! I love the old photos and your mom’s wigs!

Donna - February 10, 2009 - 9:49 am

My mom told me that I “came so quick that I sent her into shock.” The story goes that she was getting ready for work (she was a teacher) and realized she was in labor so her and my dad went to the hospital and she had me in time to be able to still make it to work that morning, of course she stayed with me, but still that is probably very quick… I was her second child.

When you get pregnant enjoy every minute of it! I have two children a nine year old and a 7 month old. They are so much fun!

Carissa - February 10, 2009 - 10:24 am

Every year on my birthday she tells me about it! I was not an easy baby to carry or birth apparently! But she remembers it all and so will I! That is one thing I wish I had more of for my children…

Jenny - February 10, 2009 - 10:41 am

I haven’t asked my mom too much about her actual pregnancy experience — although I should do (maybe when she’s back in Minnesota from her vacation to Mexico)…anyway.

All I know is that she got pregnant with me within the first month she was married. The crazy part…she was 38 years old! My parents also didn’t have any trouble conceiving my little sister two years later when she was 40.

So I was a little surprised when Dave and I didn’t get pregnant the first month after we “pulled the goalie.” –> That’s the expression my DH likes to use. lol.

MommyAmy - February 10, 2009 - 10:50 am

I think all kids love to hear the story of their birth, even when they’re very young. :)

Stephanie - February 10, 2009 - 10:54 am

I’ve talked about a couple of different aspects of pregnancy, but strangely, not about the birth, with my mom! I should get on that.

Blond Duck - February 10, 2009 - 11:55 am

Talking to my mom about birth scares me because she had natural childbirth and goes on and on about the pain. I just want someone to drug me up, knock me out and wake me up with the baby. Kinda like your mom!

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Mindee - February 10, 2009 - 12:45 pm

My mom loooooves to tell about the 27 hour labor with no drugs. Whatever. I think she has an unnaturally high pain tolerance that she did NOT pass on to me.

She had maternity mini-skirts. Tee-hee!

admin - February 10, 2009 - 1:27 pm

Kristina – I agree, isn’t she pretty?

Ali – definitely!! There is a benefit to being over and starting a family, isn’t there?

Jenna – that’s awesome that she had you guys naturally. My mom had four other children after me and did them all naturally too. Amazing.

Donna – wow, that is really quick! Good thing they were close to the hospital!

Carissa – that’s funny that she reminds you each year. I guess that’s one of the rights of a Mom! :)

Jenny – wow, that’s cool that she had you guys being a little older. Gives us hope, doesn’t it?

Mommy Amy – I know, I think it’s a great thing to share.

Stephanie – I didn’t actually think about it til recently even though she’s told me before. It was nice to hear the details again.

Liz - February 10, 2009 - 1:28 pm

Wow. It’s so amazing to see our parents like that… young, starting a family. So happy. :)

Gennaro - February 10, 2009 - 2:41 pm

My mom loves to talk about it. I was her first, of three, so it was a new experience for her. It’s definately fun to hear the details especially since it’s through another person’s lens. Usually, we have our own point-of-view. Not that early :)

Thanks for sharing, Tabitha.

Sam - February 10, 2009 - 5:01 pm

Hah!!! My mom said she was sick from conception to birth. She was taking college classes while pregnant with me so I think I got a whole semester full of abnormal psych in utero. She said I was born the day after her final exam. I’d like to think it was preparation for the years to come… I was born a few weeks premature by cesarian, but I think my mom and I both recovered quickly. She also confided that it took over a year for her to get pregnant with my sister, then a few more years for me. She was in her twenties.

I hope I have an easier time with pregnancy…no abnormal psychology classes, maybe just some nice, soothing, classical music. :)

Robynn's Ravings - February 10, 2009 - 5:21 pm

OH!! That was the SWEETEST story! AND you cracked me up with the Marge Simpson comparison (and I gotta go with you on that one, sorry mom!) She is DARLING. How blessed to be so loved. You’ll be a great mommy. I was in my 30′s when I had my children and they keep you young. I’m still incredibly immature. :)

Briony - February 10, 2009 - 7:40 pm

such a sweet story…all i know about my mom’s pregnancy with me is that she loved onions and ate them like apples. which in my mind explains why i can’t stand them…i had enough in the womb for a lifetime. hahaha

MaryBe - February 11, 2009 - 12:42 am

That is the sweetest story and those pics are too cute!
I was adopted (very common in the 60′s) and have no birth story :(

Alzo - February 11, 2009 - 5:39 am

My mom says I was a real pain. Not just when I was born but practically every minute thereafter too, at least until I turned 18.

admin - February 11, 2009 - 5:41 am

Liz – I know, it’s so great to see them like that!

Gennaro – that’s cool that your mom talks about it. I guess that not everyone knows their story so it’s nice that your mom shared yours.

Sam – ha! great timing – glad you waiting until after her class was done!

Robyn – really, you were in your 30s too? That’s awesome!

Briony – I’ve never understood how people can eat onions like that. Your dad must have loved it! :)

MaryBe – I stumbled across those pictures recently after forgetting I had them. I’m so glad my mom had them!

Kelly - February 11, 2009 - 7:46 am

I was the first kid, and my mom was in the L&D room waiting for a while. Apparently there was this other lady across the hall screaming and cussing her head off, and yelling for drugs, when the doctors said she was too late for drugs. Of course this is freaking my mom out, getting ready for her first…. After a few minutes, the yelling stopped, and my mom heard the baby cry, and the lady calmly sighed and said – wow, that was the easiest thing I’ve ever done in my life! My mom said she was about to run over there and strangle her…..

Beth - February 11, 2009 - 8:10 am

As soon as I started reading your post I giggled…because a week ago when I found out I am pregnant, I was elated for a whole day, and then I had a moment of panic thinking, “Oh no. Now I have to GIVE BIRTH?!?” I’m freaked out but focusing on the joyful part for now.

All I know is that my mom spent 23 painful hours giving birth to me. But in the end we were both happy and healthy:)

erin - February 11, 2009 - 11:22 am

I’m like Jenna – I pick my mother’s brain all the time. My dad’s too, about what he remembers about what my mom was like when she was pregnant with me and with my sister. Lately I have also been picking her brain about what it was like when we were babies – I was the more “active” one and my sister was the “sweet” one. More than once my mom said she caught me by the ankle before I rolled off the changing table! :)

Isn’t it amazing to see your mom so young? She probably still feels that young, my mom does. It just shocks me to see pictures of her holding me as a baby, when she was as young as me. I mean, I know she was that young once, but she’s always been so much older than me. It still kind of blows my mind to imagine her at the same stage of life that I am at now.

Amy - February 11, 2009 - 11:38 am

My Mom is a dedicated journaller, she has shared her entries from before and around my birth many times. I was her third, so she was very good at it by the time it came to me. She had been induced for both my sisters, but this time she refused and I was finally born three weeks after my due date.

It is really incredible to hear what went on and how she felt about the whole thing.

Good luck to you and the CPA!

admin - February 11, 2009 - 3:34 pm

Beth – yes, I would imagine that would be tough – thinking about the birth part. :)

Erin – it really is amazing to see her so young!

Amy – I think that’s great that she kept those journals – it’s a good reminder that our parents were once like us!

Sarah - February 13, 2009 - 7:03 pm

I absolutely love that you posted your mother’s pregnancy story on here. I’ve never seen a post like this before and I really like it! What did your mom think when she saw it?

As for me, well, I’m pregnant now with my first. Ish. We miscarried last spring, which we told nobody about until eight months later when we thought we were miscarrying again (thankfully, we were not)(!!!!). I won’t go into the reasons that we didn’t tell people the first time around, but this go around, I’ve been very hesitant to ask my mother any questions. I feel like I should because I have more in common with her now than I ever have and I would love to know these things about her…

…maybe it’s just not the sort of relationship we have? We’re close, but not close like that? I don’t know. To be honest, I just don’t want the discussion about what I’m doing wrong, because I’m doing my best here, but I get the impression that my mother doesn’t always see it that way.

But she told me not to talk about her on the Internet, so um, She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named, um, I get the impression that she doesn’t always see it that way. Lol.

Sandy - February 15, 2009 - 8:48 pm

What beautiful photos! Thanks for stopping by my blog and your sweet comment. Being a mom is truly a blessing! I wish you the best of luck in your pregnancy journey!

Laurie - February 17, 2009 - 7:12 pm

You’ll be happy to hear that getting stretch marks is largely genetic. My sister, after 9 kids, still doesn’t have much except around her chest area. I didn’t have any at all, at 40 when I delivered. I actually got them after my milk came in and breasts doubled in size in 72 hours… never saw them until a year later when I finally stopped nursing. My mom doesn’t have them either.

Tanya - October 29, 2009 - 12:17 am

hey i just wanted to say that when i was in labor i didnt even know it casue i had no pain i just had some cramping by the time i got to the hospital i had no tim for any pain meds i was in hardly any pain it just felt like i had period cramps. i had my son 3 hours after that.when i got to the hospital i already had the urge to push and i started pushing shortly after igot to the hospital.its weird everyone kept telling me that contactions hurt but now im just wondering if people say that just to scare people away from having babys or to make it seem like its alot of work idk.. im confused im trying to get pregnet again. maybe with a secound one it will explaine more…

Pamela Ellwanger - June 24, 2010 - 11:06 pm

Very good blog.Really thank you!

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