I gave a talk the other day in front of my congregation at church. The topic I had been given was “Honoring Sacred Things.” This was a pretty broad subject matter and I had to figure out what specific things I wanted to cover. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I wanted to talk about relationships. Especially after I looked up the definition of “honor” and saw that it means to “adore.” I mean showing adoration is a big part of a relationship, isn’t it?
So I prepared for my talk on relationships. I read through various articles and information online and learned what I could about showing adoration for each other. Even though I am by no means an expert, after all my reading and based on my personal experiences, I came up with the following list of suggestions:
1) Communicate Regularly. This could mean something different for everyone. There are couples who just don’t like to talk, plain and simple, while others talk non-stop. I think it’s important that no matter what the style, people are communicating regularly in their relationships. For some this could mean having a nice discussion over dinner and for others (like the CPA and me) it means several small talks throughout the day. The point is, however it’s done, communication is a necessary part of any relationship.
2) Surprise Each Other. Do something nice for your significant other, something that they aren’t expecting. For example, I came home a few weeks ago to find that the CPA had cleaned out the upstairs bedroom. He had vacuumed the floor and everything was neat and tidy. I was so surprised and pleased! It really is the little things that count.
3) Show Your Appreciation. I laughed when I read this post by Heidi as she talked about the notes she and her boyfriend leave for each other around their house. I laughed because I have a similar stack of notes sitting in a box upstairs in my closet. Notes that the CPA has left me at various times such as the one where he said, “Thank you so much for cleaning the kitchen and doing my laundry.” Or the one where he wrote, “Thanks for all that you do for me!” They’re just little things, but finding a note stuck in my purse or on the bathroom mirror totally brightens my day.
4) Give Compliments Freely. Everyone needs to hear that they look nice or, “no, those jeans don’t make you look big.” And who better to build you up then your spouse or SO? I’ve noticed that even my own sweet, tough guy likes it when I notice that he has a new hair cut. He never tells me when he has it done, he just waits for me to notice. Even for him, your typical ”guy’s guy,” he likes it when I give him compliments.
5) Don’t forget the big things. During the first year that we were married, the CPA and I tried to celebrate our anniversary every month. It was hard, though, because I kept forgetting. Now that we’ve moved on to recognizing just the yearly event, it’s a little easier, but that much more important. The recognition itself doesn’t have to be huge, it could be just a night out on the town or some flowers, something to make it extra special. Personally, I’m fond of the poems that my sweetie writes for me on big occasions. Just to give you a little taste, here’s one that he wrote me for our first anniversary:
So much to see, so much to do, so glad I am, to be with you. So sweet a woman, so pure a love. So blessed we are, by Him above. So happy a day, so wondrous a year. So full my heart, so close a tear. So bright our future, so incredible the memory. So corny the poem, but Happy Anniversary.(What a sweetie he is, that CPA of mine!)
So that’s my list. We are definitely not perfect at doing all of them, but we’re trying. And I have to say that even though I was nervous to give this speech, getting ready for it really helped me to think about how important showing adoration and honor for each other really is. It’s too easy to let things go otherwise.
What things do you do to show adoration in your relationships?
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