Pregnancy Update
Wed, Apr 8, 2009
These past few weeks have been interesting ones on the baby front (thank you to everyone who sent me emails checking on our status). I’ve been dutifully writing down my cycles, complete with little notes about how I’ve been feeling and when I was feeling it. I’ve been doing all of this so that I’d be in tune with my body. So that when “it” happened, I would just know.
A week ago, I was getting ready for work when I noticed some spotting. (Disclaimer: Let me apologize up front for the men reading this. My only hope is that you have wives or girlfriends and are conditioned to this kind of talk. If you’re not, just think of it as a “learning experience.” Or, you can always go check out something a little safer like one of my travel posts and just come back tomorrow. ) Seeing as how it was a week before my period was to start, I was a little curious. This spotting came with cramps that lasted for a few days.
And I may have just been imagining it, but I swear that along with the cramps and premature spotting I was feeling emotional mood swings too. Just ask my husband! It was odd really, things that normally don’t bother me suddenly set my teeth on edge. And just as quickly as my temper flared, those feelings would go away, leaving me bewildered and wondering if I was finally losing it. And on top of this, I found myself nauseous and very, very tired.
So I began doing some research to see if this could be it, if I was finally pregnant. When I turned to Google for answers, I found that these symptoms are often associated with implantation, which is when the fertilized egg plants itself in the uterus. I also found several sites where women wrote about their experiences and told how they found out that they were with child. And you know what? It sounded exactly like what I was experiencing! I never spot prematurely and why else would I have cramps a week before my period? I just knew I was pregnant!
I called my mom and my sister and told them what I was thinking. I warned them not to get excited because I wasn’t sure yet. But then I told them that I just felt…different. I began mentally rearranging the spare bedroom and thinking about where we’d move the cat’s litter box. I did some casual searches online for maternity clothes just to see what kind of selection was available. I should probably be embarrassed to admit this, but I even stuck a pillow under my shirt to see what I would look like.
And then I woke up this morning and found that I have my period.
I tested just to be sure and yes, it was negative. Gone were the daydreams about being with child and in their place is confusion and a lack of understanding. I thought I knew my body and I thought I could read the signs. But I guess I still have a lot to learn.
It’s not all bad though. I’m not devastated because this experience made me realize that I still have a lot to do before we get pregnant. Just little things like clean out the closet in the spare bedroom and work on projects that I’d like to have finished before my free time is gone. It motivated me to continue taking good care of myself too, which includes working out more regularly. So yes, it’s disappointing, but it’s not entirely a bad thing.
Have you ever thought you were pregnant only to find out you weren’t? Or, how did you know you were pregnant, what symptoms were you having?
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April 8th, 2009 at 4:41 am
Yes – Just today! We’ve been trying to get pregnant again since last summer, but my cycles have been really messed up – like every 15 days instead of 28! Except this month! Day 28 came and went. I took a test. Negative. I waited three days and took another test. Negative. Then I had some spotting one day and nothing the next. I was ready to call the doctor today, but I woke up with my period. Ugh.
What a funny coincidence!
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April 8th, 2009 at 4:55 am
Yes. We had trouble getting pregnant with Our Julia. About three months before getting pregnant with her, I had a positive pregnancy test. When I went to the doctor, she did bloodwork and confirmed that I was pregnant, but cautioned that the numbers weren’t as high as she would like and scheduled me for more bloodwork in three days. Three long days later and I found out I was (to quote my doctor) “almost” pregnant. My body had produced an egg and it was fertilized, but for some reason did not implant. It was big news for us in that we had finally got my body started ovulating, but still a very big disappointment after the excitement of those two little lines
As for knowing I was pregnant by the symptoms, I’m not very good with that. My mom was the one that suggested my exhaustion stemmed not from being the mom of a six-month-old baby, but from the new one growing inside me!
I would have figured it out soon, though, because my one big pregnancy symptom: constant, all-day nausea.
Best of luck to you guys!
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April 8th, 2009 at 5:06 am
This past summer right before we moved and right after my period was practically non-existent and I was sick or dry heaves every morning. I seriously thought I was pregnant. It ended up being a stress reaction. And, come to find out, the multi-vitamin I was taking was actually causing a lot of the morning illness. So I don’t take it anymore.
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April 8th, 2009 at 5:15 am
I really wondered with your guest bloggers… You may have been right. Very early pregnancies often end, before you would ever even know you are pregnant. Perhaps God’s way of protecting us from those losses, since we don’t know.
I knew a week before I tested with Gabby. I felt different. The day I gagged while brushing my teeth I was certain.
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April 8th, 2009 at 5:49 am
I didn’t know at all. I all of a sudden realized mid-October that I hadn’t had my period since the last week of August. Oops. Haha.
I agree with Kristy up there.. I think it’s between 50 and 60% of first time pregnancies end before you would have even tested positive for it. It’s crazy to think about, and maybe a little depressing to some. But I think of it like.. what if that really is true, and what if we ended up carrying all those babies to term! You think the world is overpopulated now..
And P.S. don’t you dare empty/clean/scoop that cat litter box when you ARE pregnant! http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/pregnancy/illness/180.html
E
April 8th, 2009 at 5:54 am
I’m sorry for your disappointment
Just a couple weeks ago I had kind of a scare. My body is usually like clockwork…I always start on the same day within a window of hours. This last time I was 2 full days late. I was kind of scared, but finally got what I was looking for. Hang in there 
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April 8th, 2009 at 5:59 am
Oh Tabitha, it will happen!! It took us 6 months to get pregnant with our son.
Yes, there have been quite a few times when I could have sworn I was pregnant. The problem is that the signs of getting your period are very similar to the signs of early pregnancy!
This time I really knew for sure because my breasts were EXTREMELY sore and I was having some really crazy mood swings. Also I was starving all the time.
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April 8th, 2009 at 6:09 am
I am not yet at this stage in life so I have no personal experience to share, but I am sorry for the dissapointment you felt. I can’t imagine it being easy, but you have a great perspective on things and there is always the dream for the future
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April 8th, 2009 at 7:15 am
Tabitha, so sorry for your dissapointment. I’ve been there too. There were a few times that I actually was SOOO sure I was pregnant that I ran out and bought some tests. And then nope. Totally wasn’t. The ironic part is, when I finally became pregnant, I think I might not have noticed, if I wasn’t being super sensitive, since we knew I was ovulating that week.
Sending you a big hug.
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April 8th, 2009 at 7:18 am
Rachel – oh, I feel your pain (literally, this has been a painful period in more ways than one). It’s pretty frustrating isn’t it? The constant guessing and watching and waiting. I never imagined it would be such exact science, but apparently it is. Good luck to you!
Joanna – really? I didn’t know you had problems getting pregnant with Julia. See, it’s stories like yours (and everyone’s on here) that help me and others feel like we’re not alone.
Julie – ahhh… the good ole stress reaction. Don’t you just love that? I can’t tell you how many times I was sure that I had some dreaded disease only to find out that it was because I was stressed. It sure does awful things to our body, doesn’t it?
Kristy – I wonder that too, if an egg did implant but just didn’t “take.” Everything was off and I started several days early (and it’s been a particularly bad one this month too) so I can’t help but wonder.
Emily – it is crazy to think about and really makes you wonder. And don’t worry about the cat – my husband has already volunteered to take care of it (wa-hoo, no cat litter for 9 months. Now THAT I’m looking forward to). I have a funny feeling that when that happens, we might end up with one of those automatic cat box cleaners that we’ve looked at. Hmmm….
Jill – I would imagine that would be frustrating too, for different reasons of course. Hmm.. maybe it was stress that caused you to be late? It’s so hard to really know.
Eryn – thanks, you’re sweet. It’s funny you mentioned the sore breasts – several times a day I would check and think, are they sore yet? They never were. Maybe that’s one I should keep an eye out for!
Briony – what a sweet comment, thank you for being supportive!
AM – thanks for what you said. Believe it or not, just reading that you guys have been there too really helps!
April 8th, 2009 at 7:19 am
Tabitha…my heart goes out to you. It is very frustrating and can be a hard path to walk. I went through infertility for four years and when I finally did get pregnant, I lost the first baby. And during that time I must have thought I might be pregnant at least 20 or 30 times. It was my whole focus. I wanted a baby so much. We went through all kinds of treatments.
“Bo” was my first. But I remember feeling, before she came, like it was almost Christmas so many months, only to get a memo that Christmas had been canceled.
Almost four years later I had “The Wild Man.” God has a plan for you, too.
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April 8th, 2009 at 7:24 am
With the 1st one I was pretty sure every single month that I was and was disappointed every single month – for a year. Then, when I really was pg I realized that boobs so sore that you don’t want anyone within a foot of them was my sure sign.
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April 8th, 2009 at 7:43 am
Oh, I feel where you’re coming from. This last cycle, I went 43 days w/o getting my period. I was so sure…but then I wasn’t feeling any symptoms, so I was so unsure. The at home tests kept saying negative though. I even called my doctor and she said not to come in unless it’s been 3 months since my last period.
This whole TTC thing is definitely a rollercoaster! And I’ve never thought I knew so little about my body until now!
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April 8th, 2009 at 7:49 am
My heart goes out to you and the CPA. You’re working hard on “knowing” your body and doing a splendid job. The ’signs’ of pregnancy are illusive sometimes and very similiar to other conditions and/or illnesses. Waiting is one of the most difficult parts of life – no matter what we’re waiting on to happen. Good/bad and/or delightful/sad occurances of life are difficult to “wait” on for the end product. The good thing to hold on to is the fact that the wait DOES go by and often times brings us an unexpected blessing we never would have thought to be ours.
Hang in there, prepare those things that you feel you need to work on (i.e. closets, rooms, clothes, etc.) and seek the joy of each day with your CPA until Heavenly Father sends that special little one to you both.
We’re all supporting you and praying for you and will be here for you in written form and some of us in person too!!
April 8th, 2009 at 8:11 am
Yes! I know EXACTLY how that feels. I went off birth control at the end of February. Even though March was my first hormone-free month, and logically I know it takes most women some time to become “normal” again, a few weeks later I was feeling tired and crampy, and I skeptically allowed myself to believe I was preggo.
Alas, here I am three negative pregnancy tests and 7 weeks later. No period. No pregnancy symptoms. Just… waiting. Every day that goes by without getting my period is bittersweet — sweet, of course, because I might still (maybe?) be able to get pregnant this cycle, and bitter because if I never get my period, then I will never be sure I am cycling properly. Oy, the waiting is the worst!
Good luck
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April 8th, 2009 at 8:21 am
Your symptoms definitely sounded like implantation! And it very well could have been implantation. Had you not been trying maybe you wouldn’t have even really thought about it.
I agree with whoever said sometimes things happens and it’s God’s way. Keep trying! I’m so excited for you!
With both of my pregnancies I knew right away, even with our most recent I kept getting negative tests and kept saying I knew I was pregnant, sure enough… a week later it showed positive. I do think women know their bodies.
Good luck!
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April 8th, 2009 at 8:25 am
OH yes… Between my girlfriends and I, I’m sure we went through it all. Every single one of our pregnancies were completely different. We actually WERE pregnant – for about 6-8 weeks – before we conceived each child as well. The dr. told us after miscarrying to “wait a few months”, but I’d heard that right after a miscarriage you’re actually at your most fertile, so both times we went right back at it
rather than waiting and voila. Babies.
Keep praying – God knows JUST when it’s the EXACT right time!
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April 8th, 2009 at 8:27 am
Oh, bummer. I know you said you weren’t devastated, but here’s a *hug* anyway. Being not-devastated makes you twice the woman I am.
I don’t think there’s any such thing as always knowing how to read the signs, so don’t beat yourself up about that. Some women know IMMEDIATELY and other women take months.
I’ll keep my fingers crossed and send some good-luck vibes your way. I know you’ll make an excellent mother when you get a positive test =)
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April 8th, 2009 at 8:38 am
Hey,
My husband and I were going through the same thing. I had been off of the pill for almost 7 months and nothing had happened. I bought “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. It was very informative. I started charting my temp. and guess what, we got pregnant on my first cycle of charting. We are due in November. It is still pretty surreal, but we are just wanting to get thru the first trimester.
P.S. Love your blog!
April 8th, 2009 at 8:45 am
Robynn – wow, what a story, I had no idea that you struggled with infertility! I’m so glad that you were blessed with your sweet children.
Mindee – Ha! That seems to be a theme and definitely a sign that I’ll be looking for.
Jenny – I couldn’t agree more! A rollercoaster is definitely what it is. The constant ups and downs and wondering and waiting is really a ride, isn’t it?
M to TTDA – so sweetly said, thank you, I needed to read that.
Katie – I’m glad I’m not the only one that goes through the pregnancy tests! I know the CPA doesn’t like paying for them but I feel that I HAVE to know! And this time I had a legitimate excuse – I was going for the molds for braces and they wanted to do xrays. That’s why I took a test just to be extra safe. But man they’re expensive! And yes, waiting is the worst!
Terra – that’s what I thought too. It just felt so different somehow. Wish they had some kind of implantation test.
And I’m glad to hear that you were in tune with your body enough to know – it gives me hope!
Ali – really? I didn’t know that. Hmm… very good information to have.
Sarah – yeah, that’s why I was asking you all those questions last week! I thought I was going to have good news to report but alas… not this time.
Kelly – hi, welcome to the site and congrats to you!! That’s awesome! Definitely keep us posted!
April 8th, 2009 at 8:54 am
That’s such a bummer, Tabitha!
There was a month where I ran out of BC, and couldn’t remember when I started, so I started my period later than I ususally did, and I was freaking out! This is when we were first married, so I definitely was not ready for a baby then.
April 8th, 2009 at 9:03 am
Girl I am so there with you, one can’t help but have their minds wonder. And I totally believe that you were feeling those things, like you said you were just more in tune with your body.
I will share my pregnancy story with you. I was charting my temps and cm, for about 8-9 months and we weren’t actively trying to get pregnant (but also not trying that hard not to get pregnant) The day after we had sex I told my hubby I am pregnant, he thought your so full of it, but I knew. I felt different, my breasts were my indicator, they like 4-5 days after my ovulation were so tender and tingly, on 9 dpo (days past ovulation) I tested it came back negative, then 14 dpo (and still no period) I tested again and it came out positive I was pregnant (with twins) I never had any spotting, or early nauseousness, but I just knew.
I love hearing your ttc stories, I am keeping my fingers crossed that it will happen very soon for you guys! You will be amazing parents.
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April 8th, 2009 at 9:08 am
I hesitate to leave a comment since I really don’t feel qualified to say anything. I’m one of “those” women who get pregnant at the drop of a hat. And while I love my kids, I really do hate being pregnant for reasons that are not relevant right now.
I was having a hard time adjusting to two kids when, I found out I was pregnant with my third and my second was not quite 5 months old. I cried when I found out. I wasn’t ready to go through pregnancy again.
Anyway, my mom married her high school boyfriend. After four years of her trying to get pregnant, she found out he had gotten another woman pregnant so she thought something was wrong with her and that she couldn’t have kids. I’ve talked to her about it a few times. She said the emotional roller coaster she went through each month was extremely difficult.
Then she married my dad. Nine months and a day later, she had her first baby. Eight years later, she had seven kids. She would often comment on the Lord’s wisdom in his timing.
Your doing awesome. I hope to hear good news soon.
The first indication I get is that my appetite increases dramatically and I just can’t think of anything besides food! Then I get really tired. Then morning sickness hits. Icky
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April 8th, 2009 at 9:26 am
Automatic catbox scoopers…how funny that you mention it because that’s what MY husband says we’re getting when it’s time for him to take over scooping duties. I’m sorry for your disappointment. While we’re not trying to have a baby yet, we’re getting close and I’m starting to get the feeling that it will be REALLY hard to stave off disappointment when it doesn’t happen right away. But all my friends who’ve been there already offer the same advice as many of the lovely ladies who’ve posted above…just be patient and try not to worry. It will happen!
April 8th, 2009 at 9:55 am
Oh my!! This whole trying to get pregnant thing sounds so complicated! I’m just glad you’re doing okay. And I love that you added the line about the pillow under your shirt. Thank you for writing that
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April 8th, 2009 at 10:08 am
Kristina – ha! I know that feeling too. That worry about getting pregnant when you don’t want to. I’m willing to bet that there are a lot of others who have had that problem too.
Jenna – what a great story! And you know, I read that somewhere else too, about the breast becoming tingly. How interesting. I’ll add it to my list of symptoms to look for.
Serene – wow, that’s truly amazing. I love stories like that because they give you a whole new perspective on the big picture. I believe that some things are out of our hands and that things happen for a reason and I’m willing to bet that your mom believes that too. ps – no one holds it against you that you’re able to get pregnant quickly. I say good for you!
Meg – ha! Must be a guy thing! The cat sitting appointment I have right now that uses the auto scooper is a guy too. I say you make your husband go with the manual cat scooping so that when it’s time to change diapers, he won’t even bat an eye!
WofOdie – just be glad I didn’t take pictures of it. It wasn’t a pretty site!
PS – I just wanted to thank you guys for all of your words of wisdom (and keep them coming). You’ve made my entire day – I can’t tell you what it means to read your thoughts, well-wishes, and experiences. Each of you is inspiring, not just to me, but to each other.
April 8th, 2009 at 10:42 am
I don’t know if I should say this in the presence of so many who have struggled TTC but we did not have any problems once we started actively trying. I had been off the pill for about two years and we figured if it happens it happens. A couple times I was SURE we were, but no dice. When we starting actively trying and got pregnant this past summer I was pretty sure it would be another negative like before. I was a week “late,” I had had some minor spotting and mild crampiness. Looking back now, I remember feeling extra bloated and my breasts were more tender than usual for my period, but I wrote those off as just pre-period symptoms. I really had no clue until I took a test and it came back positive. My hands were shaking when I saw that.
**Hugs** to you also. On the bright side, you guys can keep up the fun of trying – because when you are 8 mos pregnant, it is NO fun at all.
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April 8th, 2009 at 10:45 am
Oh hang in there! I’ve heard lots of people use the breast soreness as a sign.. but for some, their chests get sore right before/during their period, so maybe that isn’t helpful for you!
I can’t imagine the rollercoaster of ups and downs. Have you talked with your doctor? Maybe if this continues for a while you may want to set a date in the future as the “deadline,” after which you will make an appointment. I don’t know why ,but having dates in my head of “I will do x after this date” sort of gives my life structure sometimes, and the things that are worrying me dissipate because I tell myself I have a plan of action to start on x date in the future.
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April 8th, 2009 at 11:20 am
I was forever thinking I was pregnant before I actually was. It was ridiculous, because we were using protection and weren’t trying to have a baby, but I probably thought I was pregnant like six tims. When I actually was, I didn’t think I was!
It will totally happen though, and it’ll be amazing. I can’t wait!
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April 8th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
I hope you feel better soon. I hope you get a positive test soon. Kate was years in coming, but it all worked out perfectly! You seem to have a great attitude. Best wishes!
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April 8th, 2009 at 3:09 pm
Yeah, the boob thing is one of the first things you notice. And, if you have to ask “Do my boobs hurt?”, they don’t. My other one is that my fridge starts to smell bad. I have to stop breathing when it’s opened.
Good luck. It is so disappointing when you think you are, but then you’re not. The whole experience is very emotional. Chin up!
April 8th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
The first time I got pregnant, I think it was the sore breasts and the missed period. I think I really don’t suspect anything until I miss my period a week. I was lucky not to have the classic symptoms such as nausea with my first pregnancy. I lost my appetite but did not ever feel like throwing up. Honestly, I kept worrying while my OB kept telling me to relax and feel lucky. I have also had two m/c at different time. One right before I got pregnant with my son and one recently in the last few months. It’s hard when you see the positive only to start spotting and eventually a period a week later. I read this is quite common and some women don’t even know they are pregnant and consider it a late period since they never tested. My two m/c were very early on (about 6-7 weeks). Both times, the OBs have said there is nothing to suspect anything is wrong and sometimes for whatever reason things like this happen. But there is a good reason such as not the right time or medically the sperm and egg does not fuse correctly. So it is the body’s way of naturally dealing with it.
It took me awhile to get pregnant the first time (about 6 months or so the first time). The best thing to do is relax. That’s what I’ve been told. Sorry to hear about your disappointment. Perhaps, as you say, there are still things you need to get done before you have a baby.
April 8th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Serene has a good point about the appetite. My appetite increased pretty hardily right off the bat.
Then it died for a month and now it’s back with a vengeance. I think this baby is convinced that if it’s edible, I should devour it. The cool thing is that my Crohn’s symptoms have been on hiatus, so I’ve been able to eat foods (like chocolate, BEANS, bacon) that I hadn’t been able to eat in YEARS. So cool! Yet another reason I’m pretty sure I should be allowed to be permanently pregnant.
Okay, not really, I’m not going to turn into someone who is a surrogate for the rest of their lives just so I can eat bacon, but it is awfully tasty lol.
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April 8th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
Erin – that’s exactly what the CPA said! That guy – he’s always looking on the bright side.
Jess – great idea, I like that!
Stephanie and Kristy – thank you, I needed to hear that!
Jana – I’ve heard that too, the thing about smells.
Joy – again, great points. And you’re right, I’ll just focus on things I can do now and try to relax in the meantime.
Sarah – bacon, huh? That right there is a good reason to get pregnant!! Glad you’re able to enjoy it again!
April 8th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Oh I’ve sure been there!!! It’s crazy… when we first got married I thought I might be, and when the test was negative, I was a bit sad, even though we didn’t really want to be pregnant yet anyway. Now, I’m in the same boat as you… trying again! So any little difference brings a gleam of hope, and then I just wait.
~Tabitha~
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April 8th, 2009 at 10:10 pm
Awww, Sweetie, I am so sorry that you aren’t pregnant. Are you thinking too hard about it? Just let it happen..when you miss your period then take a test. I know you got your hopes up. Maybe it won’t be too much longer. You feel really tired and have sore breasts. Some get sick right away as well. I think you’ll know.
April 9th, 2009 at 2:48 am
Oh, sweetie, I’ve been there and miserable about it. I wish I was one of these people who could let go and “see what happens”, but I was taking my temps, charting and testing after the first month of trying.
My babies are going on 4 years old, but their conception wasn’t easy and I don’t want you to read lots of horror stories and think that’s happening to you.
My only advice (and take it for what it is, unsolicitated and from a stranger) is to not get obsessive. TTC can take over your life.
April 10th, 2009 at 4:59 am
I have accidentally read this page yesterday…and what a relief this has been as we are going through the same thing. Also, I am amazed how you answer to every post, so please you don’t have to answer mine…poor thing! Anyway, I guess we just assumed the minute we’re going to start trying we’ll going to get pregnant–mostly when everybody else around us got pregnant and they did not even know it–but we have not…and we have not been to the doctor yet as it has been only three months. I learnt and appreciated some of the posts as some ladies did make a point that it’s better we did not think we were nad then misscarried…that would have been worse. Well, we’ll keep on trying and then reading/writing on these support groups blogs…and next year we’ll share pictures with the new babies! oh, and we tried the ovulation predictor….yeah…not recommended. Good luck to you!
April 13th, 2009 at 6:19 am
I’m sorry.
I used to keep a stop of pregnancy tests around. It was because I always panicked. If I was a day late, I’d take a test just to be sure. My first pregnancy I had no idea what was the matter with me. I thought I had mono or something. Second time around, I knew with my first dizzy spell.
Best of luck in this month.
-FringeGirl
April 22nd, 2009 at 9:40 am
I can totally relate. Every time I thought I was pregnant, I wasn’t. I even went so far as to see a doctor because I still couldn’t believe what I was feeling was normal. The 2 times I did get pregnant, I didn’t have a clue. Good luck!
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April 22nd, 2009 at 11:01 am
no time to read all the comments here.. I was excited checking in and seeing ‘pregnancy updates..’ happy for you.. but then saw this. Could well have been a chemical pregnancy, etc.
I have one son almost 2 and we are trying for one more. I had a miscarriage 2 months ago (supposedly many women have at least one, plenty do not even know they had one and just think they are getting a heavier than usual period) all cold comfort when you want a baby.
I would say ‘try not to worry’ but us TTC’ers know better:)
Try this site, which helped me SO much ”
http://www.twoweekwait.com . It RULES.
Might I add a suggestion? I drank plenty of grapefruit juice with my first one (helps increase good cervical mucus, very good for sperm) and I also ordered ‘PRESEED’. Most lubricants are seriously damaging for sperm. Also a doctor developed this stuff, it is truly amazing. Go to preseed.com for testimonials. People with years of TTC who get prego on the first, or second cycles. I am not connected to the product just have told friends to try it (only $14 so why not) and 2 friends got prego using it. Luck? Maybe. Can’t hurt. And the whole lay down (pillows don’t matter according to my OBGYN) for at least 20 minutes after. Try the preseed though.
Ok, best of luck and this will be an adventure! I hope you have good news for us soon enough:)))
April 22nd, 2009 at 11:07 am
Oh! And one other thing which I think helps… try and resist the urge to pee on a stick too early..:) Most women do not have enough HCG to register until @ 12-13 days after ovulation. For my first pregnancy it took me until 3 days after a missed period to show! For the last (sadly my miscarriage) it showed positive only 12 days. So it varies each time. I also learned that spending tons of $$ on the tests in the drugstore was not worth it. I would test early and often and get discouraged. If you do feel the need to sneak in a test (he he) the Dollar Tree tests truly work just as well. Who knew?
There is a website that was so fun to visit when I peed on the stick and was wondering ‘Is this positive it’s sooo faint!’ many positives can be faint (just read the stick in the allotted time on the box directions for true results) and instead of holding it to the light and squinting I would hit that website for some pics/examples of what a postive test looked like for the brand of test i was using..
Website:
Peeonastick.com
Has FAQs as well. Enjoy:))))
Sorry this was so long!
April 23rd, 2009 at 8:11 am
The hardest part for me when I was TTC was getting through the days between perceived ovulation and getting my period/testing positive. I have a 3 year old who took a year to conceive and am pregnant with twins after trying for about 2 years or so. My frustration came from feeling that there must be a correlation between my heightened awareness of my cycle and actually getting pregnant. As if being more aware made it more likely for it to happen. Aside from a general idea of when to have sex, how much of this process could I honestly control?
In addition, the only way I knew I was successfully pregnant was by taking a pregnancy test the day after I missed a period. I never experienced pregnancy symptoms prior to testing, including implantation bleeding – in fact it took weeks with this last pregnancy to have the sore breasts, fatigue and nausea. You’d think with twice the pregnancy hormones it would have been unbearable.
Is it possible to be in TTC mode and not have it preoccupy you to some degree? Probably not. But we do have choices in how we react to the process. In retrospect, I wish I’d been a little easier on myself. I wish you all the best!
April 23rd, 2009 at 8:20 pm
I just wanted to say good luck. I just stumbled upon your blog today and the “pregnancy” topic caught my eye. It took us 6 months after 2 miscarriages to get pregnant with my first child. I hate to say that it does sounds like you maybe have been pregnant but it didn’t take. There was definately a time that i thought i might be pregnant while we were trying, same kind of symptoms.
I’ll be hoping for you!!
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May 15th, 2009 at 8:52 am
I totally know how you feel! I thought I was pregnant almost every month EXCEPT the one I actually was pregnant. I just “knew” I wasn’t pregnant. I have really irregular cycles and I was on day 54. My symptoms were exactly like when I get a really heavy period (bloating, sore breasts, and tired). The hubby said I was probably pregnant and I kept telling him, trust me…I am NOT pregnant. Well, one night I finally broke down and bought a pregnancy test because that is always how I would get my period to show. Every time in the past that I took a test my period would come the next day. Imagine my surprise when it came up POSITIVE as soon as the pee hit the stick. Guess I didn’t know my body as well as I thought. The symptoms I had were just like PMS. (Never had morning sickness or other traditional symptoms.)
September 21st, 2009 at 10:54 am
Dealing with a premature baby is not easy. Women go through a lot of pain and struggle during pregnancy only with the hope to see a healthy baby delivered. But when someone delivers a premature baby it takes a lot of courage to accept the fact and deal with the concequences especially when the doctors do not have a lot of hope for the baby.