Friday Gratitude: What Does Your Spouse Do For You?
Fri, May 8, 2009
I had a therapy session this morning (more on that next week, it’s a new thing that you may find interesting) and during that session I was asked the question: Â what little things does your husband (spouse) do you for you?
So it got me thinking about all of the things that my spouse, aka the CPA, does for me. Â And at the top of the list is one I know I’ve mentioned before, but I have to say it again: he rubs my feet. Â Every night. Â Without fail. Â I personally don’t know how he does it. Â I mean my feet aren’t gross, at least I don’t think they are, I just don’t understand how he does it. Â He even seems to like it.
He brings me water. Â It sounds like a little thing, but I can assure you that it’s not. Â We keep our jugs of water in a storage cabinet in the basement, way at the back where I rarely go. Â It’s not far to walk, I just don’t like going back there because it’s dark and there are spiders. Â And those jugs are heavy too! Â So he brings up a new jug every other day.
He also replaces the toilet paper in the upstairs bathroom. Â Again, I could do this myself, but he does such a great job and who am I to take that away from him? Â I don’t even have to remind him, he checks it regularly and I’ve never run out – it’s almost like magic.
He washes the dishes in the  morning.  It’s kind of an unspoken deal – I fix dinner at night and he washes the dishes in the morning.  It’s fair, don’t you think?
The more I think about it the more I realize that my husband really does a lot of little things for me. Â And I think it’s important to mention these things because after a long week you realize it’s the little things that get you through.
What does your significant other do for you? Â What would you like for him/her to do?
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May 8th, 2009 at 4:04 am
He mows our yard. I don’t even know how to turn on the mower. I’ve never had to do it!
He gives the kids their baths. Maybe not as often as I’d like, but certainly more often than it would get done if I had to do that chore myself!
He also does dishes!
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May 8th, 2009 at 4:50 am
He washes my car. He puts in windshield washer fluid and generally makes sure it’s safe to drive.
He mows the lawn and takes out the trash.
He puts loads of clothes in the washer and dryer. This is a job we share, but I appreciate it when he does it.
He cooks at least half the time. Yum! He also does dishes.
He cuts roses from our bushes and gives them to me in lovely bouquets. Sigh.
May 8th, 2009 at 5:02 am
My husband does 95% of the yard work – outdoor allergies (mold, pollen) are my biggest enemy. He cooks dinner most nights (so I get the clean up which my MeMaw is looking down on me and laughing because when I would cook with her I would ditch the kitchen at clean up time!) He works way harder than I do and rarely complains about his job. I love him so much!
May 8th, 2009 at 5:09 am
oh sweet cpa! he’s such a great husband. the number 1 thing that i love that odie does is he scratches my head every night in bed until i fall asleep. seriously, could falling asleep like that be any more heavenly?
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May 8th, 2009 at 5:16 am
Justin makes me coffee in the morning and brings it to me. He takes care of the trash. He also bathes the girls every night so I have half an hour to get something done or rest.
Great post!
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May 8th, 2009 at 5:29 am
Love it!! So sweet. It’s amazing when you actually start to think of the great things our men do, how many things actually come to mind. Sounds like he’s going to make a great daddy too… attentive!! That’s where my mind first goes now when I think of my husband, the great father he is and how much he helps me with taking care of her and things around the house.
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May 8th, 2009 at 5:37 am
Great Post! <3
Chris makes me food a lot. Breakfast on weekend mornings, snacks after work. He’s the fried egg sandwich master. Mmm. He does 80% of the laundry, and 80% of the dishes. I’m more of the organizer/declutterer, and he’s more of the cleaner. It’s lovely.
He kisses me goodnight. Every night. We started that recently. I suddenly realized one day that we weren’t necessarily saying goodnight at all. Yikes. :]
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May 8th, 2009 at 5:52 am
My husband is really great at rubbing my feet and shoulders when I ask him to. I always ask if he wants a back rub too, but he says no! He’s great!
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May 8th, 2009 at 5:57 am
Awww… I love hearing what your guys do for you. And here I thought my guy was the sweetest one out there. I think he definitely has some competition!
May 8th, 2009 at 6:04 am
Gotta love your CPA – he’s totally awesome and I’m very grateful that he takes such great care of you and does all those special “little” things in your life.
My Cop is much the same – I often think he and the CPA are so much alike in many ways. My guy rubs my back each night – it’s a ritual too. I often tell him he would have been a great massage therapist. He loves to cook when he gets time and is quite the gourment cook, and he also has a talent for making new dishes that are out of sight delicious. He does all the outside yard work and work on the house (like gutters, painting, etc.). I’m good at seeing all that needs to be done and he does it all – amazing. He’s wonderful in doing the laundry – washing, folding and putting away. He’s the best team mate ever in projects – he’s right there beside me whenever I come up with a new project and I love it!!! He’s just plain awesome and I’m very grateful to have him in my life.
May 8th, 2009 at 6:32 am
I think it’s a good thing to sit down and think about the little things our SOs to for us such as changing the toilet paper roll.
My husband does a lot of things but I think the ones that stand out are he gives me foot and leg rubs and he scratches my back! I have an itchy back and he is always willing scratch my back. I told him next to having a back massage, a back scratch is wonderful! Okay, I know it might be TMI for me to admit this but I love having my back scratch especially after a long day and I’ve taken off my bra. The other things my husband does include cleaning up after the cat (box and other things), getting up with my son in the morning and running of to buy me burn cream at a moment’s notice like last night after I accidentally let my wrist touch the hot oven when I was taking out dinner.
May 8th, 2009 at 6:58 am
Over our 36+ years my husband has done many things for me, but here are just a few. When the kids were little and I was a stay at home mom, he would get up with them every Saturday morning and let me sleep in. When I went back to work he started making the bed every morning and cleaning up the kitchen after breakfast. After the kids grew up and left home, he took over their job of doing the dishes each evening. Now that he’s retired and I’m still working he does all of the grocery shopping and even cooked dinner every week night for six months. I eventually had to take back a few days a week because after a reprieve I actually missed it. He’s a keeper!
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May 8th, 2009 at 6:59 am
Since we’re in a new “temporary” place, our roles are kind of confused right now. I feel like I’m the one doing more of the supporting actions – shopping, cooking, laundry – in the limited capacity that I can! But he’s aware of my efforts and thanks me, but up at 4a and home after 6p means he crashes as soon as he hits the pillow at 8:30-ish. And, now that we’re back in the land of plenty, he’s taken me shopping twice for summer clothes. I need them coming from highs of 60-70F to regular 95 degree days!
Oh, and he expressed real support and excitement last night when I told him of my upcoming job interview on Monday! Wish me luck in part 1, the phone interview!
May 8th, 2009 at 7:37 am
All things lawn related. Lots of encouraging words. Picks up dinner when I’m too tired to think about cooking.
Ooooh what I’d give for a good foot rub though!
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May 8th, 2009 at 7:53 am
Five things:
1. Joe makes the bed every morning because as you probably guessed from my Lance, he sleeps in later than me.
2. He cooks most nights. I hate cooking.
3. Before he leaves for work in the morning, he always kisses me and says, “I’m beautiful and fresh-faced in the morning,” which makes me giggle.
4. He sings me made-up love songs and plays me this one genius tune he composed last year when we were on vacation in the Florida panhandle. It’s called “Dolphin,” and I’m always begging him to play it.
5. He sometimes brings me back Reese’s Cups and smutty magazines from the grocery store.
Actually, you’ve just inspired me to write a post about the best thing Joe ever gave me…
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May 8th, 2009 at 7:55 am
My husband is really good to me…he cooks dinner a lot, he goes to get me coffee (love my Dunkin’ Donuts)…he does a lot of little things that I don’t always seem to appreciate and he does them without complaining. But, I do appreciate them…one day I thought about it in comparison to my own dad. Let’s just say they are polar opposites and I appreciate the little things he does to make me happy
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May 8th, 2009 at 8:11 am
The Boyscout is awesome. He takes care of the cats and does all the vacuuming. He cooks a lot, yummy. If I have a sore muscle or ache, he will massage it. We always kiss each other goodbye and say I love you before hanging up the phone. He has been known to go to the store for me really late at night for a medicine when I’m sick or for last minute lab/activity supplies when I was teaching. He also tends to start the washer more often. I also can’t tell you how unbelievably supportive he is in my professional endeavors – always celebrating little successes with flowers, cards, and dinners. He is fabulous at picking out jewelry for me and knows my taste to a T. He also knows how to surprise a girl at just the right time with a facial, pedicure, or other spa treatment!
May 8th, 2009 at 8:18 am
He cuts the grass (even before we were married, he could come over and cut the grass for me!); he takes out the recycling (a job I don’t care for); he’s great about doing the dishes (no dishwasher); he ALWAYS pushes the cart or carries the basket when we go to the grocery store together; and he leaves me little notes on the kitchen counter when our work schedules have us passing like two ships in the night. He’s dreamy.
May 8th, 2009 at 8:19 am
The dishes gig you have going on is such a sweet arrangement! On the flip side of that, my husband asked me this morning what I wanted for mother’s day. I said a clean kitchen would be nice. So he asked if I wanted to get started on the dishes when I got home from work and he’d join me when he got home lol.
Anyway, the little things my husband does:
a) Breakfast. Our dog sleeps in the kitchen nook, so the kitchen smells like dog in the morning. Donald cuts up a grapefruit, blends some berries, and pours a bowl of cereal. Then he delivers it to me in bed. Every morning. Without fail. Just so I won’t have to smell Hank.
b) Back rubs. They aren’t a daily thing, but I always appreciate them.
c) Little love notes. These pop up everywhere. On my windshield, in my computer bag, under my pillow. Ahhhhh.
May 8th, 2009 at 8:35 am
Actually, I think there is nothing he doesn’t do for me. He is the stay at home dad at the moment, and he cooks my meals, cleans my house, takes EXCELLENT care of our son, he brings me lunch on days I’m running too late to pack anything, he caters to me when I get off work, and he is there for me…110%. He is my everything.
He is so appreciated!
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May 8th, 2009 at 9:36 am
–>My husband cooks and I do dishes. Win – win.
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May 8th, 2009 at 10:04 am
I thought the comments needed some man perspective so here goes nothing: (This may get me in trouble) haha.
Happy Friday!
Kate does the laundry, and it might take her a while to do it, but i love her for it. She also feeds the dogs in the morning, mainly because they are asleep when i leave. Hmm…searching….searching.. she does clean the house (sometimes) but I usually go behind her and really clean.
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May 8th, 2009 at 10:07 am
The previous comment is by my husband, and while I normally reserve complaining about him for my own blog, I can’t let his comment slip by unnoticed.
Chris – you’re an ass and we’ll talk about this when I get home.
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May 8th, 2009 at 10:08 am
You are blessed and HE is a smart man. He is creating a happy wife who will give him a happy life. Win win.
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May 8th, 2009 at 10:37 am
I just got married a few months ago and we’re still working out the chores/who-does-what in the house. We finally decided to keep track of everything we did in a week and write it down on a list to trade at the end of the week. It was an eye opener for both – the other one did more than we both thought! Ever since then, we never bicker about who does more and it seems that we’ve both gained a bigger appreciation for what the other one does. I think we were stuck in our own perspective of thinking we each did more, but the lists really highlighted it. Now we tell each other to stop doing so many chores so we can add more to our own ‘list’ (which we no longer keep except in our minds and hearts). We also say thank you to each other more often. Who knew list-making was such a great tool!
May 8th, 2009 at 11:00 am
33+ years – Patty says he calls me Patty-cake and brings a Payday candy bar that we share…………….life is good!
May 8th, 2009 at 11:59 am
Awww feet rubbing! My hubby takes care of everything in our dusty and smelly basement so I never have to go down there. And he does a lot of laundry. But most of all, he lets me pursue my dreams and if of great support.
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May 8th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
I am jealous about the footrubs!
Brian is wonderful. He takes care of me. He also:
- manages our money and pays the bills. It’s so awesome to not have to think about the electric bill when it comes, because I just hand it to him.
- cleans the cat box, takes out the trash, and puts the cans out on trash day. I bring them in (when they are empty and light) but he does the hard work.
- mows the lawn. We share yardwork, but I appreciate that he (usually) does this, and even when I do it he empties the bag for me when it is full and heavy.
- just generally takes care of me.
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May 8th, 2009 at 2:55 pm
I hate to vacuum. He will gladly do it with no questions asked. My parents even bought us a Dyson for Christmas and I have yet to use it!
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May 9th, 2009 at 8:16 am
To HollyB – that’s a great idea, the list. And my husband and I, following a suggestion in a book that he likes (I find it amazingly man-centered and too Christian for my taste, although there are some good ideas) also made a prioritized list of the things we each absolutely hate to do. We let the person who dislikes something least do that chore. It works out fine!
May 9th, 2009 at 8:41 am
I would LOVE a nightly foot rub!! *sigh*!
But MY CPA does a lot around here too, I must admit, that’s helpful to me in many ways.
HE CLEANS THE HOUSE, vaccuums, does most of the laundry, does all of the dishes (I hate dishes) and, well, pays all the bills.
He’s probably more wondering what it is I do for him??! Lol.
May 9th, 2009 at 7:46 pm
Wow, your hubby changes the toilet paper? I can’t get past that one.
My husband is very thoughtful. He’s not real good with housework, but he always remembers to help some way. He already made me my coffee pot tonight so that it will be ready in the morning. Considering the state of my mood in the mornings, this is HUGE!
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May 10th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Kevin does all sorts of things for me.
He waits patiently while I search through the produce section trying to figure out exactly what it is I want to eat, even though this sometimes takes forever and multiple stores.
He tells me I’m beautiful multiple times a day.
He drives, because he knows I don’t like to.
He’s my dish nypmh. (I don’t have a dishwasher.) I go to bed and everything is clean in the morning.
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