I think this one may make the Weekly Round-up of Great Reads on my own blog!

It seems to me like the most important questions to ask are going to vary with each couple. What’s most important to YOU is what you need to discuss. And even then, there’s no guarantee the answers won’t change. A friend of mine married a guy who seemed (in word & deed) very supportive of equality in their relationship. But after they were married he suddenly became disrespectful and misogynistic, and refused the discuss the possibility of any compromise with her.

So more than asking questions, perhaps the most important thing to do is just to pay attention to the way the person you’re planning to marry acts in everyday (non-dating) situations. Because when the, “new” of the relationship wears off, the way he or she acts towards the rest of the world is how they’ll start acting towards you.

Luckily now after six years together my partner also feels that the time is right for starting a family, but it took years of arguments and tears and even a separation to get here.

At least we talked about our religious views properly when we met, so we never had any problems with that particular topic

Stephanie´s last blog post..things I have learned: 7 weeks

Hank (my hubby) and I have discussed creating a list of crucial conversations, but have debated whether the discussion and actual behavior would bear any resemblance to each other. How folks see themselves and how they behave is not always aligned. In the end, we thought it important to include a historical example (sort of like a behavioral interview) to make certain our thoughts were in alignment with our actual practices.

For folks that have asked questions prior to getting married, have you found with time that the responses given were accurate?

One question I’d add to the list, how and when do you prefer to approach difficult topics?

Nelia´s last blog post..Are You the Great Illusionist?

It is a compromise, but it should be a willing compromise. For a totally happy relationship, you should be selfless and then everything will fall into place. It will be effortless if you are with the right person.

Carol´s last blog post..Honey, can we get a Yorkie? I’ve always wanted one.

We didn’t ask a single one when we got married.

Amy´s last blog post..Timmy and that purple monkey

And oy… the where to live. Luckily, we’re both in a profession where it’s a hassle to change states, but I must admit that it was sort of strange near the end of grad school. We’d been dating for about 5 months and we were having to decide where we’d end up (due to exams, state qualifications, etc). We knew several couples who didn’t make it through the process; the relationships were too shaky and tenuous to make it through the “we like the state, we like each other, let’s give it a go” process. So, sort of strange to have to decide that one early on!!

Jess´s last blog post..Life this week