I don’t know if I’ve ever told you before (I’m guessing you may have picked up on this on your own) but I am married to an older man. And by older, I mean that there’s a 17 years difference in age between us. (Gasp!)
If someone had told me years ago that I would have married a man who was a whole generation ahead of me, I would have laughed. Back then, I tended to gravitate towards the young ‘uns. Don’t worry, they were legal and most had even finished college, but I didn’t feel old so I certainly wasn’t going to go for someone my age or above.
So when the CPA came along, I was surprised. First, he doesn’t look his age. That’s always a bonus in my book. Second, he doesn’t act “older”. Well, other than that habit of listening to 70s rock, which I just can’t seem to break him of, but that’s a post for another day. And third, he gets me like no one else has.
As we dated, I began to see that there were advantages of being with someone who had experienced the world longer than I had. First of all, he’s patient beyond belief. Seriously, I can’t tell you how many hours I’ve dragged him around shopping malls and boutique stores looking for the perfect item, with him patiently offering his opinion and carrying my bags the whole time.
Then there’s his communication skills. I’ve mentioned before his ability to listen to my side and to admit when I have a point, but there’s something to be said for just listening in general. I used to date guys who had no idea how to really listen or if they did, they didn’t know how to respond. I love that the CPA and I can sit and talk and listen to each other for hours. And they’re great conversations too. He communicates with me on a level that I didn’t know existed. When there’s a problem, we work it out – we don’t hide in our room until the other one figures out something’s wrong. We talk about it. What a novel concept!
Now I know that there are plenty of guys my age and younger who also have these skills and I even dated some of these guys at one time. My point is that there is something to be said for an “older man,” and this is something that I didn’t realize years ago. In fact, I think that it’s because he is an older man and his subsequent years of experience that make him the man he is today. And you know what? That man is the perfect fit for me.
Who would have thunk it?
Is there a difference in age between you and your significant other? How many months/years is it?