Going Bald

Do you remember your first grey hair?  (If you’re reading this and you’ve not yet found a grey hair, feel free to skip ahead.  If you’re reading this and you know all too well what I’m talking about, just nod your head and sigh.)

I found mine at the tender age of 35, a mere three years ago.  I still remember how devastated I was.  I believe tears were also involved.  Even though it was just a random grey hair, there’s something about seeing proof of the fact that you’re aging instead of merely thinking it will happen “some day.”

As awful as that experience was, it was nothing, I mean nothing, in comparison to how I felt the day that I realized I was going bald.  Yes, bald.  As in receding hairline, tufts of hair growing out of my ears, bald.

Okay, maybe it’s not that bad.  But still…

I made that discovery last week and it was due to this picture (admittedly it looks worse in this picture than real life because my hair looks so very dark here.  At least I hope it doesn’t look this bad in real life.):

Remember that picture?  I used it in a post about our recent trip.  See that little spot up near the top, right above my eye?  That’s the one.  Bald I tell you.  Now compare it to the picture below (taken back in 2007) and you’ll see what I mean.  No spot.

I should have known this would happen.  I’ve been losing hair by the fistfuls over the past two months.  I’ve got hair everywhere – it’s in the sink, it’s on the floor, it’s in my baby’s hands as he pulls away from my neck, it’s everywhere.  It supposedly has something to do with the hormonal change my body has gone through since having the baby, blah, blah, blah.  Again, reading about it happening and then seeing it actually take place are two very different things.

So I did the same thing that I did when I noticed my first grey hair – I Googled.  Imagine my relief when I saw several posts about how normal hair loss is after a pregnancy and how it will eventually grow back.  I even read about one woman who suddenly had a bald spot right above her temple (just like me!).  Needless to say, I came away from my Google search feeling much better than when I went in.  I realize now that all is not lost and there is hope and best of all, it will grow back.

Until it does, I guess I’m just going to have one heck of a comb-over.

But looking on the bright side – at least my comb-over’s not grey!

Anyone else had this happen?  Anyone?  Please?

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joy - July 12, 2010 - 8:09 pm

I have thick hair and mine was falling out by the fistfuls too! It seemed like it was worse this time around than my first pregnancy. Thankfully the falling out did stop and now I have two areas in the front growing out with these short looking “baby” hair! I did not have too bad of a receding hairline but it was noticeable. Don’t worry, it does grow back! It’s just a pain to deal with all the hair all over the place! :)

Terra - July 12, 2010 - 8:44 pm

YES!!!! In fact, I was looking at pictures from Christmas morning last year and I noticed that I had the SAME bald spot as you. It’s completely normal. It’s frustrating, but it’s a fluxuation in hormones I believe. You still look beautiful!!!! And, it grows back fast. ;)

Chantelle - July 13, 2010 - 2:12 am

This is another of those oh-so-wonderful pregnancy side effects I’ve yet to experience! Bet you can guess just how much I’m looking forward to it! Haha.

As you said though, from what I can gather it does grow back!

As for grey hairs, I found my first ones a few years ago and I still manage to find one now every few months – thankfully they’re not anywhere near a noticeable level yet, I’m only 24! Hubby on the other hand is 25 and has had a fair amount of grey above his ears for the last couple of years. Thing is though, it doesn’t look so bad on guys! I actually quite like it on hubby – makes him look distinguished!
.-= Chantelle´s last blog ..Spinach -amp Strawberry Salad =-.

The Wife of Odie - July 13, 2010 - 4:59 am

all i have to say is i think you look so beautiful in both pictures, especially the first one!

emilyG - July 13, 2010 - 6:07 am

ditto to a few of these posts. i have naturally super crazy thick hair and of course, it got thicker during pregnancy, so it was much more obvious when it started falling out. every time i took a shower, there was this clump of hair stuck in the drain mesh (which, thank goodness we had, because i can’t even imagine how clogged our pipes would have been with it..).

another note, i found out that the Mirena i had put in at 6 weeks post-baby, caused my hair to KEEP coming out. 6 weeks, 2 months, 3 months, 4 months.. came and went. i think it only happens to a select few of us, but i just wanted to throw that out there also, for anyone considering Mirena (or anyone still losing hair and not knowing why).

it’ll get better. but it sure is a pain, yes? because these days you have less time to fix your hair, and yet, it looks worse in a ponytail. the joys of early motherhood. :)

emilyG - July 13, 2010 - 6:08 am

something that helped me: i started parting my hair on the other side. for whatever reason, i lost much less hair on the other temple. and it looked much better. haha.

Jenny | The Balow Bunch - July 13, 2010 - 7:21 am

I think that’s good news that you were more hopeful after the Google search. I think most of the time Google searches bring out the worst possible scenario and makes things seem scarier.
.-= Jenny | The Balow Bunch´s last blog ..Oh blog- how I ignore you =-.

Mindee@ourfrontdoor - July 13, 2010 - 8:01 am

Bummer. Pregnancy sure does a number on the entire body, doesn’t it?
.-= Mindee@ourfrontdoor´s last blog ..Numbered Randomness =-.

admin - July 13, 2010 - 8:06 am

ha! Mindee – you’ve got that right, I had no idea just how much pregnancy would throw my body out of whack. But, like everyone says, it’s worth it to have a sweet little baby. :)

Chantelle – yeah, mine’s not too noticeable yet either. I find it helps to actually have my hair done (highlights). The problem is when I don’t take time to do it.

Casper - July 13, 2010 - 8:33 am

I have had gray hair since I was just a little one, before I was even in double digits so I am used to seeing those. However, I am pregnant with my first and really hoping I don’t go through that balding phase. Hope yours grows back quickly!

Carolina Baker - July 13, 2010 - 1:08 pm

Have you ever heard of the witches tale that if you pull a grey hair out many more will come out??? I grew up with that tall tale. I’m 27…Pulled one out and I swear another one grew in its place.
.-= Carolina Baker´s last blog ..Melting Pot of Updates =-.

lou - July 13, 2010 - 1:45 pm

What happened to be when I had my baby 4 years ago is the realization that I was truly going to die now. When you are single you take every day one at a time and look at people as they cross your path and say…oh my, they have gotten so old. But never do we look at our selves that way. Once my son was born I looked at him and realized that I AM going to die because he is what I am going to leave behind. Talk about tears. I cherish each and every day….with or without my youthful hair and pray that our family will be together forever. You look beautiful, content and peaceful..stop worrying.

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com - July 13, 2010 - 4:17 pm

That happened to me too – a little earlier than it happened to you, though. I started losing chunks of hair around three months postpartum and it kept up for three months after that. It is FINALLY growing back, though, so there’s hope yet!
.-= Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com´s last blog ..Ten minutes ago =-.

Rachel - July 13, 2010 - 9:07 pm

I have thin spots over my temples like this too and so do my younger sisters. I’m 21 and it’s been that way our whole lives.

Anna V. - July 15, 2010 - 9:37 am

My heart goes out to you. Is it any easier for men to start losing their hair? I recently found a product that makes a difference. Google “Joan Rivers Great Hair Day”. (I don’t work for Joan, she’s never heard of me, yada, yada, yada.) It’s a powder and works on my thin spots. Don’t know if it can help everyone but it works for me and I was thrilled to find it.

erin - July 15, 2010 - 6:24 pm

According to my mommy group, it happened to all of us. Brian told me once it looked like a small animal died in our bathroom trash can each morning. I’m stilllosing a lot, 14 months later, but it’s not nearly what it was at 4 and 5 and 6 months. :)
.-= erin´s last blog ..busy like a bee =-.

Jenna @ Newlyweds - July 19, 2010 - 6:15 am

Oh girl yes, I lost so much hair!! It happened about 7 months after the boys birth when I had started to wean them from nursing, yikes. I thought losing that much hair wasn’t possible. But then it all started to grow back in and I had baby hairs everywhere, and what seemed like bangs, lol!
.-= Jenna @ Newlyweds´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday =-.

Janet - July 19, 2010 - 6:42 am

Relax! Your hair loss is due to hormones, it’s natural…

Everything will be okay. I went through the same thing after having each of my boys. It freaked me out. A lot. I even took photos of my bathroom sink (covered in hair) to show my doctor! I was told it’s normal – but could get worse if you begin a really low-calorie diet and don’t get enough protein (like I did)… So go slow, take deep breaths and know you’re okay. In fact, I thin You’re fabulous!

Sending you many hugs!
Janet
http://www.thearmymom.com

miranda - July 19, 2010 - 1:22 pm

I feel ya! Mine started coming out by the fistfulls around the time I started my little girl on baby food. Fistfulls is not an exageration. It did grow back after about 6 weeks (and a few frantic calls to my dr. and hairdresser and my hairdresser’s magical-aka expensive-elixar) and now it sticks straight up about 99% of the time. Baby hairs MIGHT be worse. Just warning you!

admin - July 20, 2010 - 8:12 am

I’m SO glad to hear that I’m not the only one! Although I have to side with Miranda – I’m seeing the baby hairs that are growing in and they’re not pretty. Better than being bald though. :)

Lisa - July 20, 2010 - 9:39 am

35 before your first gray? Aren’t you lucky!
I was 12. Yes. 12. I started developing the genetic trait of our family: a gray streak. It looked super cool, actually.
But, by 19, I was going gray everywhere. Now, at 25, when I let my root grow out, I’m shocked each time how much gray is in there.
I can say I’m looking forward to the day I’m -completely- gray and can rock the white look!

Heidi - July 23, 2010 - 6:46 am

Someone also told me that noses get bigger with pregnancy? IS THIS TRUE? Because I don’t think I can handle baldness and an even bigger schnozz than the one I currently have.

I’m so sorry about the hair situation, Tab. I hope your hair grows back a mane. Regardless, I think you’re beautiful no matter what.
.-= Heidi´s last blog ..Homemade pug food or Chinese takeout =-.

Jen - September 19, 2010 - 5:32 pm

I have yet to have kids so that baldness I am aware of. I do however have this nice bald circle on the top of my head. It randomly happened about a year ago. No hair growing up yet(despite my hairdressr telling me it would).
I however was 16 when my grey hair started rolling in. I have a huge chuck of it now(PS. I am 25). Everyone thinks it’s blond hair, until I get them to look closely and it’s pure white.

PS. I came to your blog because you have the same name as my sister. It’s a rare name :)

Deb@joggingstrollersreview.net - December 8, 2010 - 9:45 pm

I got my first gray hair at the ripe old age of 23!!
Now I have a full head of gray hair but you know what? Everyone seems to love it. I think I look distinguished and wise!

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