This morning I was reading the news as I often do, and an articled titled “Four in Ten Say Marriage is Becoming Obsolete” caught my attention. I realize that journalists these days go for headlines that are designed to catch your attention, but still… 4 in 10? Is that right?
While I’m no expert on being married since I’ve only been a wife for a little over three years now, I still find it hard to believe that marriage is becoming a thing of the past. Religious and social reasons aside, I would think that people would want to get married at the very least for the ceremony. Don’t little girls still grow up dreaming about their special day, imagining the moment when they will wear white and walk down the aisle in order to say “I do?”
The article went on to give more statistics about the 2,691 people who were interviewed stating just how many have divorced parents, how many live with unwed parents, etc. etc. What I got from the article (and what I want to discuss here) is that according to the media, you don’t have to be married to have a family and that people are beginning to think marriage is a thing of the past.
Now I’m all for being open-minded and I know that situations in the world are changing, but I am a firm believer in marriage and stability and providing an example of both for children. That’s not to say that kids in different situations will not enjoy a happy childhood or be given needed opportunities, I just think that being married is ideal. And yes it is based on my religious beliefs but it’s also based on my experience. My parents were divorced when I was 16 so I know what it’s like to have both.
We live in a world where, obviously, divorce is normal and living together before (or instead of) marriage is accepted as standard practice. And please know that I’m not trying to find fault because I believe that everyone has a right to choose and I am most certainly the last person to tell others how to live.
But I am curious – why is it different now? Is it because of the Brad and Angelinas of the world? Is it a matter of practicality? Is it because of money? I’m curious: do you think that marriage is a thing of the past? What has been your experience?