Sometimes I get so caught up in my daily activities that I forget that for a good 80% of the day it’s just Henry and me. From the time my husband leaves to go to work and returns again 12 hours later (no, that wasn’t a typo) we are alone. It’s a good thing I like the kid or else that could get a bit tiresome.
We go to play groups at least once every two weeks and we make the occasional trips to the library and such but we’re mostly by ourselves. I do talk almost daily to my sister (who now lives in Kansas City with her family) which is nice. During our recent talks we’ve been discussing our friends, or lack thereof. The consensus we have come to is that we have lots of friends, acquaintances, and such, but very few people that we can call and say “hey – I’m bored, can I come over?”
I became very aware of this situation this past week as I had not one, but two grown-up play dates with friends of mine. It made me realize just how out of touch I’ve allowed myself to get.
I wonder why that is. I admit that I’m horrible at staying in contact with people. I have good intentions, of course, but life gets in the way and I get busy. And that, for me at least, is the root of the problem — I’m busy and my friends are busy. And trying to get together often requires scheduling and babysitters and travel, sometimes I just don’t have it in me.
But then I wake up one day and I wonder where my friends have gone.
Which is why I need to make more of an effort. I need to reach out to others and make myself “unbusy”. So what if it’s a bit of a challenge to get together and so what if my child cries all the way there? I need to do it. I’m going to do it.
Because spending 80% of the day without grown up interaction can’t be good for anybody. I know it’s not good for me and it’s probably not good for Henry either.
How do you make time for your friends?